"He's an Aspergers, he's just ****ing annoying"

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Apologies for the swearword, I'll asterisk it out completely or remove if the mods ask.

That is verbatim what I just overheard my coworkers saying about someone they know. I haven't told them I'm being assessed for AS and I thought I got on well with them, though I don't talk to them much socially. How can I tell if they dislike me and just talk to me to keep the peace in the office? if I do have AS, and they knew other people with it would they be able to tell? I've read that it presents differently in males and females (I'm female) so could that hide it enough? I'm probably just being paranoid here, but I've been excluded from and bullied out social groups many, many times and am very scared of it happening again, especially now as it's taken me a year to settle into my University due to difficulties making friends and bullying or exclusion now could ruin my chances of getting my PhD. Sorry to bother you guys but I need help fast and the councillors at the is Uni are rubbish.

Yeah I understand your anxiety. First I'm private person and it will likely be years
before I tell a person IRL I have AS.

No matter what you find out it want change what those people think of you. They either
like you or they dont.

In college it was hard for me to make friends but I did make friends in time. look
the kind of relationship that could lead to you being rejected by these "friends" is
not worth saving. True friends know your weaknesses and still love you. Those are the
friends you need .These others can f*** off.

I am a female with AS and I annoy the hell out of my bosses and co-workers(if you can call what they do work....get the hell off your cell phone!!)Like the time I let the baby racoon out of the cage the exterminator had set up at my job.....oh no,,,racoons are eating our garbage...call 911......Anyone with a heart would have let that baby out to be with his mommy,you should have heard it cry!!!Maybe it is my AS and maybe it is some other personality quircks that makes me "not to popular"...they dont know I have AS and wouldnt care to learn about it anyway(they dont show much interest in the clients we work with DD,so I doubt my "issues" would evoke any empathy.".....Try and not focus on it...AS or not....we are all unique and some of us ARE more annoying then others with AS.

Thanks TheMachine1, I don't really consider these people friends, they're more like aquaintances. They're ok to work around and haven't made any obvious attempts to exclude or be cruel to me, and I don't mind their company. I don't really have that much to do with them in the office, but that's because when they talk to each other they don't talk about work, just gossip and their homelives. I don't think there's anything necissarily wrong with this, I just can't keep conversations going on these topics for very long and don't find them very interesting. I don't expect to be best friends with these people, I'm happy just being an aquaintance, but I'm worried that if I annoy them or they suspect I have AS they'll exclude me or treat me like a ret*d.

Thanks Krex, I don't want to tell anyone either. I can't help but focus on it- If I don't keep an eye on things I will start annoying people and making mistakes, and I don't want to be like what I was when I was young. I've been trying hard for as long as I can remember to make myself acceptable so I can have some friends and not get punished (by my parents when I was young, by people around me now). I can't help worrying, it's an innate response.

politeness is such a rarity on this forum; it was good of you to take the time to thank everybody here who posted r mc.

Maybe somethings wrong with my eyes..

Because I see plenty of polite people on these forums, in fact rudeness seems to be more of a rarity around here.

Yes some have been offended, but these were solved quite easily, with patience and calm help.

I think you need to go to the adult section of the forum r_mc. When you see the posts there, you will understand that we're not all rule-abiding members here.