Does it ever quit.

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I just want a moment of peace and crap gets chaotic. I just don't know how to deal with it anymore than suffer in silence wishing someone would notice I am staring off into nothing dwellling on terrible things just hoping someone might have enough sense to try and pull me out of the trance. Sometimes I just really have no idea how to handle it.

I can relate, don't know how it would work for your situation, from personal experience, I am increasingly realising that sometimes the best way to handle a situation is to let others know how I am feeling, whats going on for me, otherwise they are not aware what is going on inside me - though sometimes the best response is just to deal with it myself or get away from the situation, some people have a tendency just to make things worse.

I try to let people know how I'm feeling, if I am not around people that would judge me for it....but sometimes its like I cant. I mean maybe i just don't want to bring others down but then there are times it feels like I just cannot express how it is I feel but then I end up feeling worse because I can't pull myself out of it.

I'm familiar with that. There's a lot of times I feel like there's something I need to get off my chest but I just don't know what to say. Depression and anxiety is so isolating because so many people just don't really get it or understand what you're going through even if they act like they think they do. I think the attitude that everyone can just pull themselves out of anything is an unrealistic western cultural fetish. It flies in the face of the actual science of psychology which shows pretty clear evidence that mental coping ability is a function of social connection. There's something hard wired about the need for empathy and isolation is the absolute worst thing for depression.

Yeah and the worst is when I am not physically alone but I still feel I am....then I have a sensation that reminds me of if I was sinking into quick sand but no one could see it and they are all to far away to hear if I yell. Its like the quicksand represents the falling into more depressed anxious thinking....and people being to far away to see or hear me is comparable to me not being able to verbalize that I'm falling into that and cant pull myself out so they should do something to help. But obviously people aren't mind readers so its not like I think they are actually ignoring me I know no one can know whats going on if I don't say anything.

Sweet Pea hugs

Yeah, I can relate as well.

But I don't think I deal with it in an appropriate way by saying all my feelings to just one person.

Sometimes I get so overwhelmed by my problems that it's all I can think about and no one seems to be able to pull me out of it.

I know I should be able to do that myself, but my coping skills for problems are pretty low, it seems...

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Understood
To me iv been with the same one for 17 years It should be at lest obvious enough to ask how ya feeling.
So here is a little nudge from me to you.