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Things are not going well so I posted something on Facebook about my husband because I was upset and feeling stressed out. Then he calmed me down after my mother solved everything for us and talked to him. Then less than a half hour later my husband comes out and asks me "What did you put on Facebook?" I told him I was upset when I did it and he said on the phone "She was upset but she is feeling better now." then he asked me what did I say and I told him. He told me it was upsetting lot of people so I figured he was getting phone calls about it. He told me to delete it. I was not expecting such a drama. I went back and saw I had four comments to my post and I deleted it and sent two of them a message saying I am feeling better and it's just stuff going on in our lives. Two of the others were from my online friend.

Then I found it all funny because I posted one thing and I was not expecting a drama over it and people calling, I think only one called. My husband asked me what was so funny and I told him. He said "divorce always causes drama" and I said I never said that, I said I wished I never married and met him and he said it was the same thing.

What the f**k was I thinking?

Yeah I don't handle stress well. This is why. I start saying things and then not meaning it later on. I have never said in my marriage or before when I was with my husband that I want to leave him or kick him out or even divorce him. Now I find myself saying I wished I never married him and stayed with him. In my last two relationships I was always talking about breaking up with him and in my last one I was always saying I wanted to go live with my aunt and uncle and he go "then go." They both gave me lot of stress and made me fall under depression and putting me under so much stress. But I did eventually leave them and I wonder if this will happen with my husband. I one day decide to just be single and separate from him.

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I don't even know what CC is nor how to put it on.

Sorry, click on that youtube link. Then go to CC button on bottom next to full screen. There you go.

Well I doubt these thoughts are just coming out of nowhere, I mean are you unhappy in the relationship? that might be a good question to ask yourself. I mean unless you're sure you're just saying these things for no reason at all. I mean you're not obligated to stay with a guy no matter what if he's crossing lines and making you unhappy....so maybe you should try and think about what's best for you rather then just dismissing your own feelings as BS to please him or anyone else.

Sorry if I am getting the wrong impression here, or if that's not helpful but this all seems kind of concerning, I could be wrong though.

When I was a little kid, I got in trouble at school for writing "I hate you" in a note to another kid. When my mom found out, she told me I should never write down mean things; instead, I should say them to the person's face when no one else was around. That way, no one could prove I said anything. Very strange advice from a parent, but I have never forgotten it.
FB is a particular minefield. You have to really think before you post anything there.

My husband is a stubborn man so he always prefers to do things alone but yet he will get his mother to help him and she can't always do it. So he ends up cancelling his appointments for him to get better. He doesn't have me take him or nothing and every time he has a seizure, he hurts his back and I keep freaking out about it because then he goes back to square one where he is in intense pain again when he was getting better. Then he can't get to his appointments because he hurts too much. So I fear he would never get better and would never be able to go back to work and our income be low. But my mother talked to him so things should be better now and no more him being stubborn about it.

I mean the things mom said to me and acting like I am not supporting him nor helping him get to his appointments didn't help so it pushed me into that breakdown (I don't take false accusations well either). Then my husband told me he wanted to talk to her so I handed him the phone.

I called my parents just to rant about stress because my husband had told me to leave him alone so I called my parents instead to get it off my chest. Apparently I had taken him literal when he said it to me because he said he only wanted me to leave him alone for a minute. But he didn't say that when he told me to leave him alone. But it was a good thing I called anyway because she told him what he needed to do so he wouldn't get in trouble with his doctor and insurance.

Sweet Pea hugs