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edited to reduce negativity in my post.....

Unfortunatly I did not get to read before you edited....but my anxiety get's pretty bad too so I can relate to that some. I mean sometimes it seems it just won't leave me alone. Feel free to post how you're feeling though The Haven exists so you can do that, if you need to vent do it. Don't worry about being too negative, you have every right to vent and people like me will do their best to try and give support, feedback or advice.

just feel sh***y. That is all... (and not what I wrote the first time).

I know the feeling, I mean I have been feeling sh***y for days, but yeah I just don't want you to feel like you can't vent here. But no man I hate anxiety. I mean it makes me feel so freaking helpless and to me its kind of humilating. I mean I know I'm female and all but I am not really the type to want to make my upset emotions obvious. I mean sometimes it gets so bad I just want to cry but I can't stand doing so in front of anyone.

Thinking now I'm now wanting to go to a family gathering tomorrow. A cousin is visiting here in Michigan from Texas, and for some reason I hardly ever got along with him.... he is a nice guy but just rubs me the wrong way.

And my sister's "command", something she frequently wants me to do, "go and -SMILE- at somebody!", doesn't help at all. (She hasn't said it to me recently... but I think she thinks that will cure me....) She frequently when talking me uses very sharp affect. I notices my somewhat flattened affect, and I think she thinks she should fight my flattened affect. Wrong. Doesn't work that way.

Anxiety sucks is all I can say.

I often get the feeling like "I want this anxiety to just go the hell away" but I don't know how to make that happen. I know I would be so much more outgoing if I weren't so anxious all the time, but I'm just too nervous most of the time.

There is no law that says you have to hang out with someone you don't get along with, when you are both attending the same event. Just go to the get-together, and if you happen to bump into that person there, just be civil and say hi, how are you. Then move off to go hang out with people there that you do get along with. I know for a fact that this works. Besides hearing how it has worked for others, it has also worked for me. I have a very good reason for not being able to stand my sister-in-law, due to something really nasty she did to me, but must occasionally be at the same family functions. I just say a civil hello, how are you type of thing, and move on to hang out with others there. Sometimes I will even go hang out with her dog! I have no quarrel with the dog, and get along fine with her. Her two favorite activities seem to be sleeping and getting petted. Hey, I can do petting!

As for your anxiety issues, you need to find ways to occupy and distract yourself.

- Exercise. It generates mood boosting endorphins.

- Read funny stories and watch funny shows. Humor also generates endorphins.

- Eat healthy, and enough of it. A healthier diet will boost your immune system and is also good for your mind. Skimping on amount of food leads to depression, crankiness, and being more prone to get sick.

- Get enough rest. Being tired leads to depression, crankiness, and being more prone to get sick, too.

- Listen to and/or play music. This is mood boosting.

- Take courses, either in person, or online. Some of the online ones are free. The in person ones are a good way to meet people.

- Volunteer. There are people worse off than we are, who would really appreciate the help. It's also a good way to meet people, and boost your self image and mood.

- Take up a hobby or join a club. These are good ways to meet people who share your interests.

- Get involved in community activities. Attend town meetings, events at local libraries and other local organizations. Attend local sporting events, fairs, and art shows. Attend and/or participate in local theater groups. These are all great ways to meet people and boost your self image and mood.

- Employment/or self employment. Great way to meet people, boost self image, put money in your wallet, gain experience. Since you have been having trouble finding work as an employee, perhaps you should consider self employment. There are many types to choose from.

Give some of these coping methods a try. They do help some--I use some of them myself, so I know they work.

I've seen your posts like this before, questor, and frankly those kinds of suggestions do almost no good. I AM involved in life. I don't find myself drawn to reading funny stories or watching funny shows.... As far as I am concerned, please don't post stuff like this in response to my blues posts when I'm in an intense anxiety situation.

I am thankful, however, it is about over. I fell asleep with prescription meds (taken as prescribed) and feel quite a bit better.

Sweet Pea hugs

My suggestions. I'm no councilor or nothing...you can take or leave my advice.

Write, always write....get a book or journal or even your pc and open up the page and write stuff. Write how you feel, what you think, what you want to say but can't, what you hate, what you want to do, and everything. Don't let anyone else read it (err unless you want to of course?)

Or find a trusting dog or cat (or any pet if you have one) if you're so inclined, and tell them how you feel. Heck...I used to get my dog, take him for a walk away from everyone, and tell him. Or a plant (I used to have bonsais, and there are lots of tall trees in the bush near my house). Trees are great for ranting at (quietly and away from humans). Or the sea, or the sky etc etc use your imagination..talk to whatever you identify with. Christians talk to God don't they?

Go away from everyone for a while. Physically: you can walk down the street or bush (depends on where you live) or mentally: play a computer game and put headphones on and take it out on the other characters, or meditate/go into your mind (this is what I do when I'm very stressed but am in public so can't act it out).

I used to have a severe anxiety disorder, and a low dose of Xanax helped me greatly. After the first few days it doesn't make you sleepy and you can't even tell you have taken anything, except the anxiety goes away. Once I saw that I had something to control the anxiety, I wasn't as afraid of it anymore.

This might not be helpful, but I recently decided not to let things bother me as much. Sounds hard? Maybe. I'd just done a lot of reading on anxiety and coping techniques and CBT and all that and kind of distilled it down to the mantra "don't worry about it". It annoyed me when other people said it, but now saying it to myself in an nonchalant way gives me a little release. It helped me at the latest social gathering.

I suppose it could be seen as 're-framing' a situation, but (trying not to sound like a hippy) don't forget the power of positivity. I'm not telling you you should go around being a blasé a-hole, just think about how important it is in the scheme of things.

However, I have found little helps with acute anxiety.