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minotaurheadcheese
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10 Jul 2012, 7:30 pm

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10 Jul 2012, 8:53 pm

Ah, you know what, my friend? That's typical NT propaganda and veneered politeness. Yes, I've gotten the silly "just be yourself and accept that not everyone will like you" because they feel that the truth would be inappropriate (unless they're bullies of course, then they tell you worse than the truth!!)

I can tell you from experience that the only way I kept a close circle of friends is by gradually forcing my brain to practice behaviours and such that were not natural to me, in other words, by not being myself. I remember hearing some motivational speaker who was advising an NT audience, he said that the "just be yourself" advice is hooey if you want to make it somewhere in life, because after all, you had to learn to drive, you had to learn to do your job well, and that required advancing beyond who you were at a given point in time. His advice applies to us too, but in a more disproportionate way, i.e. we have to push harder to get the rewards.

Your last statement really resonated with me, since I worry about the families out there who have ASD kids - they are growing in numbers - and hypothetically speaking, I would hate to have to tell my ASD son or daughter what the prognosis is for them given the regrettable stories of how others with ASD have had to suffer through society's narrow-mindedness.



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10 Jul 2012, 10:02 pm

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10 Jul 2012, 10:06 pm

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10 Jul 2012, 10:27 pm

I didn't get to read all of ur post, but I think I get the point. I've been "weird" all my life and grew up knowing that I was different. I always tried to change the way I interacted with people, but it never ever seemed to work. I gave up on that at ~21 bc I just didn't like having to change for everyone around me ...no one should have to live in a prison in their own body!

I find that I'm much happier now that im not afraid to be me and say the things that i want to. If there are people who don't like you...big deal! Who says you have to like them?? Be your own person anyway...run your own race without competing with others and you will get further on your own.

Over time you will develop meaningful friendships with people who like you because you are who you are. Those are the kind of friendships one really needs in life... Feel better bc it gets better, really.