Man, the longer my parents were married, the worse the yelling got. I had mixed feelings about divorce. A part of me wanted them to split, so the yelling would stop. My mother, who had undiagnosed mental problems, finally filed, after about 24 years of marriage. My father married again, to a lady from work. They have now been married longer than my mom and dad were married. My step mom is a much better match for my father, and is not always yelling. My step mom had nothing to do with the break up of my father's first marriage. It was my mother's mental problems and nastiness that did that. I am glad that my father was able to finally have a normal marriage.
I think in your case, you should leave a note for your parents, telling them how sad and upset their constant arguing is making you feel. In your note also ask them each to write down what is bugging them, so they can compare notes, and --more quietly--try to come up with a rational solution to their problems.
13 Jul 2012, 8:03 am
