Broken plans, dealing with it?

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How do you react when you have made plans to do some shopping only to find out said stores are closed, despite getting up in time, packed, lists in order etc?

I don't have AS, but I do have a bit of a rigid personality and plans changing really upsets me. Yesterday we found out just as we were about to leave that my sons occupational therapy appointment had been the day before, we had gotten the wrong day and were all prepared to go, and it really affected me. I was in a bad mood for hours after, I felt disappointed and mad at myself. I'm the type that likes to have everything planned and when things don't happen the way I planned I get kind of disoriented and depressed. I think it's a control issue or something. I hate last minute changes, I need time to prepare for what is going to happen. Lol, things like this are why I scored high for rigid personality on the broader autism phenotype.

Such incidents are deeply disturbing for me. What's also pushing me over the brink every time it happens is when they have rearranged the store and i can't find one single item anymore. This is the sheer terror.

I would get very upset, if I was really looking forward to it I would probably cry. My whole day would be ruined because once I have a plan I find it difficult to change it. I wouldn't be able to settle on anything for the rest of the day. Because of this I try and check the day before to make sure that things will be open, that transport is running etc.

I can't stand it when i am prepared to do something and the plans change. People don't understand it but, Once i have decided to do something its set in stone in my mind. I get very upset when someone wants to change the plans or cancel, I usually get into conflict with the person who made the decision.

I hate that s**t too, especially when you need to collect your food the last minutes of store open time and they moved the wares around.

I usually am the one who is like "wait guys, let me check their hours online" before we go.

If they closed at their posted hour, I would be annoyed but I would probably come back tomorrow. I've managed to learn to adapt.

If they closed early, oh I would curse them out and complain to the manager next day.

Mostly curious how you deal with the frustration than how it occured. Ie if you mourn the crashed plan for hours or just "oops" .. NEXT TODO!

I just curse and then move on to the next item or start heading to plan B's destination.

I totally get this! The other day I had the day off work and no distractions. I had a new blu-ray I was really looking forward to and the feckin disk wouldn't play. So trivial, yet it completely ruined my day. I've always struggled with broken plans!

I almost always have a Plan B.