wtf was this?

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No sleep for me so I was wandering the streets looking at the stars as I like to do. Suddenly on a dark residential street, some random dude starts whistling at me, as in cat-call type whistles. I ignore him, but he keeps on whistling a good dozen times in a row. After that he trails after me and switches to yelling "Hey! Whistle whistle!" until I turn around and yell at him to f*** off.

Really? Who DOES that? My mind has just been blown, splat.

Sorry, that was me trying to get my cockatiel to verbalize, but how could you hear it from my bedroom with the fan blowing and the talk radio playing?

It was probably just an obnoxious drunk person. No one with any kind of class would do that sort of thing.

I was driving past some attractive (I guess) girls and the guys in the car behind me were hooting and hollering like brain-dead hooligans... On the other hand, the gals must've been almost used to lewd behaviour from neandrathals... I think the short conversation went,

[jerks:] "Hey baby - shake it!"
[girls:] "Shake your own!!"

Thanks a lot for making men look like jerks, you guys!

"We are all of us in the gutter
Some of us are looking at the stars"

Oscar Wilde by way of The Pretenders.

@Minotaur Head Cheese. I'm actually thoroughly perplexed by you. You join OKC to meet guys, yet complain when six of them write to you on Day One. You walk down the street and guys whistle at you out of their cars. What am I missing here? You're attractive but don't want to me? Is it, like, a curse to you? I'm confused. Anybody else would love to have what you obviously possess in spades.

It wasn't that I was upset that six of them wrote to me. I was making a joke of the idea that I found it cringeworthy because I hadn't expected to get so many responses and I'm terrible at social interaction, particularly anything tending toward romance/dating, so I was scared and nervous. Of course I'm flattered when people find me attractive; I don't really think that I AM that attractive, but if someone came up and politely said that I looked good or asked me out, I'd be pleased (though again, scared and nervous.) I just don't understand why this particular guy had to act the way he did. It made me feel annoyed and threatened because he was being rude and aggressive and wouldn't give up.

He might have mistaken you for a hooker. Even if you were modestly dressed, this is probably an assumption guys might make when they see a girl walking the streets alone in the wee hours.

I can understand completely minotaurheadcheese why this annoyed you so much. My reaction would also have been wtf.

I like being complemented, but I hated being wolf-whistled and leered at. It makes me very uncomfortable and feel vulnerable. It makes me feel like an object not a person and I really do not like it.

Why can't a woman wander around at night without any assumptions being made? Why can't a man?

I would not automatically make the assumption that someone (male or female) who was wandering about at night was looking for or offering sex...

There are all kinds of reasons to want to walk about alone at night.

However, I personally do not feel safe to do that...but this is because like a number of women I have got caught up by the assumption that women are not necessary safe alone after dark, which is also a bad assumption to have and often not true.

This annoys me so much!!

Grrrrrr....will get off soapbox now.

A single woman walking the streets at night, your more brave than I.

I'd be packing heat.

It's too bad that it's dangerous for a woman to go walking around by herself at night just for fresh air or a late night constitutional. I was going to add "in this day and age" except it has always been dangerous for women to do that. Jack the Ripper made sure of that. Countess Bathory certainly didn't help. Count Dracula had to add his two cents worth of misery to the cause. The Green River Killer kept the infamous legend alive. And it doesn't help that every other episode of Criminal Minds, Law & Order SVU, CSI, and Cold Case is about a woman getting abducted and killed in some woods somewhere. Tragic.