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23 Jul 2012, 5:24 am

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Does anyone else have this blame thing with their parents because of their autism? My mom always scapegoated me and acted like I was a freak.

I thought I was just "masochistic" or "schizophrenic," but when I purposely sabotage my life I think my mom will be affected because I don't separate myself from her as a person? Luckily I'm young, and I have the time to turn it all around.

She thinks, again, I act hateful toward myself and my future because of "autism," but that's okay.

I wonder if these kinds of emotions are natural for people with autism????????? IDK; it's gonna be hard for me to be independent after all this careless hate, though.



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23 Jul 2012, 6:25 am

According to my Aspie husband yes, your self-destructive out of revenge feelings are natural for people with Autism. He used to do the same. But it is not healthy, and here is why: 1) it is YOUR life, not your mother's, and the only person you are hurting, ultimately, is YOURSELF; 2) young people always think they still have time to turn things around... I know a couple of those... they never found the time, and today they are struggling to earn their living.

I have a good piece of advice for you: this is your life, everything you do, do it for yourself, to improve yourself, so one day you can be independant and can get rid of those parents you cannot stand. Everything you do, do it for your freedom.



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23 Jul 2012, 8:54 am

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23 Jul 2012, 9:03 am

I was told that sometimes I do that but I am improving in many ways... if you can somehow find the energy to tell yourself and act upon your own self pity and turn it around... you'll be happier about your life.


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24 Jul 2012, 10:13 am

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24 Jul 2012, 3:02 pm

LostNutritionGurl wrote:
I wonder if these kinds of emotions are natural for people with autism????????? IDK; it's gonna be hard for me to be independent after all this careless hate, though.


Acting out, having some sort, any sort, of reaction, as powerful as you can come up with, is natural when the people whose names are God from your mouth [1] continually hurt you. Whatever the reason or rationale on the part of the parents.

Yeah, parents are always important to their child, whether the child is comfortable with admitting it or not.

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[1] "Mom" and "Dad"