12 Aug 2012, 3:32 am
Warning: As I have been feeling angsty since yesterday, I can't really think straight now. 
Q1: Is there any difference between a bored tone and a rude tone? I once got angry at a counter staff because I thought that she sounded rude towards me. Later on, someone else in the queue told me that she thought that the counter staff sounded bored rather than rude.
Q2: Has anyone ever told you to "go and die" in anger? During a major meltdown last year, I sobbed that I never understand why certain people told me that I deserve to die for letting them down. Whenever people tell me that I deserve to die, I will feel very ashamed that I'm still alive despite being worthless in their eyes. But I'm scared of death so I'm reluctant to kill myself just to please them. A police officer said that "go and die" and "you deserve to die" and so on are just metaphors. He assured me that people who used such phrases never meant what they said, but I'm so confused... I mean, I fear for my own safety because I think that these people genuinely want me dead. I'm confused.
Q3: Do you consider the following advice as good advice? "You can't shut people up because their mouths grow on their faces and not yours, so just let them say anything they want. Look, insert name of well-respected public figure here has done so many good deeds but people still curse him/her." Personally, I feel that such advice contains two hidden meanings.
Hidden meaning 1: You are scum compared to all those well-respected public figures, so serve you right when people say bad things and/or spread rumors about you.
HIdden meaning 2: I enjoy saying bad things about people so don't you dare attempt to shut me up. Let me say anything I want.
12 Aug 2012, 9:22 am
12 Aug 2012, 9:39 am
Q1: Is there any difference between a bored tone and a rude tone? I once got angry at a counter staff because I thought that she sounded rude towards me. Later on, someone else in the queue told me that she thought that the counter staff sounded bored rather than rude.
Q2: Has anyone ever told you to "go and die" in anger? During a major meltdown last year, I sobbed that I never understand why certain people told me that I deserve to die for letting them down. Whenever people tell me that I deserve to die, I will feel very ashamed that I'm still alive despite being worthless in their eyes. But I'm scared of death so I'm reluctant to kill myself just to please them. A police officer said that "go and die" and "you deserve to die" and so on are just metaphors. He assured me that people who used such phrases never meant what they said, but I'm so confused... I mean, I fear for my own safety because I think that these people genuinely want me dead. I'm confused.
Q3: Do you consider the following advice as good advice? "You can't shut people up because their mouths grow on their faces and not yours, so just let them say anything they want. Look, insert name of well-respected public figure here has done so many good deeds but people still curse him/her." Personally, I feel that such advice contains two hidden meanings.
Hidden meaning 1: You are scum compared to all those well-respected public figures, so serve you right when people say bad things and/or spread rumors about you.
HIdden meaning 2: I enjoy saying bad things about people so don't you dare attempt to shut me up. Let me say anything I want.
1. Having worked at a gas station before, I can assure you that being rude to a customer was unintentional on my part, and you had to learn to be extremely superficial with the customer in order to work there (ie. greeting customers as they walk in the door and saying "have a nice day" as they leave for example.) Certain things did annoy me and it showed, such as the customers that wanted to give you coins to pay for $10 gas purchase, and then have the nerve to give you a $20 bill for a one dollar chocolate bar afterwards
2. My brother used to say the words "eat sh** and die" to me all the time growing up. He said similar lines to my dad as well, and I could tell that my brother and father didn't get along. Being the youngest of the two of us, my relationship with my brother is somewhat strained as a result. However, some people say what they don't mean in a fight, and the irony of that is I usually always say what I mean. The best thing for me to do is say nothing when someone says something they don't mean
3. Let people say what they want is not bad advice. However, it does not mean that you should allow others to treat you like a doormat either. You are not in the public light, so consider the following: A friend say something to you that you don't like, just find a civil way of saying "I don't appreciate that, stop now." Use your common sense if they continue to keep saying things after you asked them to stop.
