Do I come off as mean?

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I'm beginning to wonder if I come off as mean to people. I really have a hard time judging. I notice the people here generally don't talk to me and in real life people get defensive around me.

If I do, it's not my intention.

Wp is full of autistics, dont take it so personally if people don't talk to you, they're all in their own world.

As for coming off mean.... I just browsed your previous posts....Tbh, i think you're hyperfocusing on the thought you're being mean, which basically means that you're anything but mean... If anything you're probably too nice :).

People are just defensive in general... People have layers of armor around themselves, everyone is defensive to some degree, the reason they're defensive to you in the way you see is probably because you're not on the "inside", you're on the outside, and the kind of niceness you give off is something reserved (among nts) for the people close to them. We're not very good at barriers are we? Me personally, i treat everyone equally and that can come off as too familiar if i don't know someone.

Hope that helped.

You're just wondering if you come off as mean. I really couldn't tell you, I hardly pay attention to who posts what around here.

Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it. If you say something really out of line, someone will point it out.

In any case this is the intrawebz, here mean is the new polite. Isn't it? Trolling, flaming, baiting, harassing, cyberbullying... Isn't that what the everyday net trash does?

I think you'll be fine.

I think u have to realise with regards to feeling you're ignored on wp/ by aspies..... I'd imagine, aspies being the way they are, they need to get used to you before they see you. You have to become part of their routine, you have to post on threads and be seen by people for a while, then slowly they get used to you.

On the plus side, once you do get to know people, you'll probably find that if you stop posting people will notice your absence.

I have done as others and looked at previous posts of yours. They look terse, which to me is not intrinsically mean-spirited.

I suppose it could seem to be the written equivalent of speaking shortly or something.