Not looking forward to school for this very reason

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You know me, I take pride in my clothing. Part of taking pride in my clothing involves staying the same clothing size and maintaining my 205-215 weight range. I love my clothes. Appearances matter to me.

However, those idiots at school who have no idea what I've been through preach proper body image to me. Little do they know I have wonderful body image as long as I don't go back to the 220-235 weight range. I honestly don't care what I have to do to stay the same size. My clothes make me so happy. I love walking around in my $50.00 jeans and my cute little tops. I love getting all dolled up in a crapton of pink eyeshadow and sparkly lip gloss. I love my jewelry and my beautiful purses/bags. All of that matters to me. I care about how I look. I love luxury and glamour. I've also had enough with people at school.

I've done a lot of work to get where I am today. One time my brown butterfly shirt was too tight(I don't wear it anymore because it's no longer my size. It's an XXL and I wear an 18/20(2x-3x) so I don' wear it) and he said "buy a new shirt". I was absoluty apalled and disgusted that that's how he feels about clothes.

Any advice?

Oh and besides, who the f**k has the money to replace a closet full of at least over 100 pieces in a different clothing size?! So in the end, I can't afford to gain weight because it reign terror on my mom and I's wallets!! !! !!

Well, if something is too small or way too big, I think you should put it aside and not wear it. Keep it in case you fit in it again, but if you don't think you will then give it away.

My youngest daughter is pretty big and she loves fixing up too. She had to get school clothes this weekend and she went to a consignment shop (not a thrift store, although we do like them too) and she got things that were new or almost new for very little money. Maybe you could look around for some consignment shops in your area?

All of my clothes fit. What I meant is if I were to gain weight, I wouldn't be able to afford new clothes. That's why I'm staying the same weight range and the same clothing size. So I won't run into that kind of problem.

If you lose weight you'll need to get new clothes also.

That's not the case either. I'm not losing or gaining, I'm maintaining. My fear is that I'll either gain or lose and not fit into my 205-215 range. My mom has confirmed(my mom is in charge of all of this)that I won't gain back to the 220-235 range.

My main thing in my life is my clothes, jewelry, shoes, makeup, and acessories. So I have to stay the same size in order to have my dream walk-in closet.

My daughter tries really hard to lose, but she can't stop herself from snacking. Also she has portion control problems. She will be 16 this weekend.

She's got some clothes she likes now for school, but she's willing to toss them and get some smaller ones if she can lose the weight.


ETA; Also, her style changes from time to time. For a while she was Emo, then Goth, then a sort of Metal Chick, for a while she was a Hipster type. It really depends on what her style of the moment is, I guess and also what's popular at the time.

Is she too heavy? I felt and looked very heavy when I weighed 220-235. How much does your daughter weigh exactly? Sorry if that's a little personal.

She's about 210 or 215 but she's only 5-6, She doesn't like her weight. I'm thin as is my older daughter and we have those metabolisms where you just don't gain and can eat what you want. My younger daughter doesn't. She really wants to look like her sister, but I think she's beautiful. My older daughter is blonde, green eyed and has peachy skin and my younger daughter has dark brown hair and eyes and olive skin. However she dyes her hair about once or twice a month. She's been through the rainbow and lots of combinations too.

See, I like the size I'm at(205-215). I hate it when women compare themselves to other girls. I try hard not to compare myself to other people. I imagine it's even worse when you have a sibling you compare yourself to.

If she doesn't like how she looks she probably hasn't reached security with how she looks. I'm very secure with how I look as long as I'm in my weight range of 205-215.

I'm glad you're happy with your body. I wish that for her very much. The thing is, a lot of people arent happy with their bodies and it's not a weight issue. I wear a 7 or 8 and I'm not happy with mine. I don't have boobs or a butt and I wish I did. My older daughter doesn't have a butt either and that bothers her. So, I think that you'll always find women who aren't happy with their bodies. If I got boobs and a butt implant I would still find something wrong, I'm sure. The one thing I do have though is great legs. Thats the body part that I'm proud of and would show off more if I wasn't 48 and feel silly in short skirts now lol.

My younger daughter doesn't really seem that big. A lot of that is boobs (DD) and butt, but she doesn't like her belly or her thighs. She actually cried about it at the beginning of the summer and I promised to help her diet and exercise but it didn't work. She wouldn't follow the diet even when we had no other snacks in the house and I couldn't get her out to exercise with me. I'm going to get her a membership at this gym here in town for her birthday. She used to go there and really wants to go back. I think going there will motivate her more than just doing exercises here or running around the block.

I wear a DDD in bra. My mom helps a lot with my diet and exercise. A lot of dieting and exercising is willpower and not giving up or giving in. I've gotten some unessesary attention because of my chest though.

I used to wear a 34 C but after nursing my kids I wear a B now. I actually bought some of those silicone inserts and a padded bra to give me the cleavage that I want. They look great but are uncomfortable so I save them for special occasions. I also bought a fake butt to that I wear sometimes, depending on what pants I have on. It's like a pair of panties that you wear over your panties and it's got a shaped and padded butt lol. It's uncomfortable too.