Why does everything always go wrong?

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I have no friends nearby and no partner, so tend to get quite lonely and unhappy. I've made friends on this forum, who are all great, but they're so far away that I don't get to see them and spend time with them . If I spend too much time by myself, I get quite upset and end up with blocked sinuses, so it feels like I'm suffocating. I've tried to do things to fix the problem (like joining groups on meetup.com) so I can get out and meet people but that hasn't seemed to work; in fact things tend to end up going wrong. Some examples:

There was a group that was supposed to have monthly movie events and I joined and signed up for a film I really wanted to see. A few days before it was supposed to happen, the event disappeared from the website with no explanation from the organiser. I tried emailing the person and still haven't gotten a response; it was over a month ago so I'm not holding my breath. I don't know what I could possibly have done wrong, since I'd not been to the group before and hadn't met the organiser or anyone else there :/.

One day, I went to a group's event and met someone there that I'd seen at another group. We were hanging out at after we left the event and so I thought things were going well. I tried to exchange phone numbers, but he wasn't interested and I also thought he was using me just to kill time before seeing one of his friends.

More recently, I joined a different website made for meeting people and had to pay to use some of the features. The website wouldn't take my payment, even though I got all the details correct. Why won't they take my money?

Clearly, I'm doing something wrong or am just not entitled to being happy. However, I have no idea what I'm doing or why that is, so I'm stuck, as I have been for my entire life. I'm sick and tired of banging my head against the metaphorical brick wall, but unless someone can tell me what's wrong with me, or help me to figure it out myself, I'm just going to be stuck. I hate this .

as far as the website that won't take your money, do they have a "contact us" link?

never give up. life is about giving yourself the best possible chance over and over. sooner or later something will go right.