Nobody in my family cares about me...

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It's always about my brother as far as who gets quality time spent with them. My mom listens to my brother's music on his iPad and never listens to my music. She said she'd listen to some of mine at some point but something will come up as usual. My brother watches the most depressing shows on TV. My favorite cartoon is coming on. I have waited years for it to start being on the Boomerang channel. When I was 14 I didn't watch the news. I watched cartoons.

When it comes to my dad and brother, I never get to talk about video games with my dad without him having a "I don't give a s**t about..."aura about him. When my brother talks about video games my dad talks about how "epic!! !!" and "awesome!! !!" gaming is. I never get to play video games with anyone!

My mom asked me if my favorite show could be cancelled tonight(I DVR it)and said "You should watch TV with us." I get paranoid very easily, so watching shows about reality only trigger me and help me lose a night of sleep. I'm going to start crying if I keep typing.

I'm the only person with Aspergers in my family. I have nobody who knows how I feel within my family. I'm not jealous of my brother. I'm just a bit hurt that he doesn't care about me and hurt that my mom apparently favors him as far as spending time with him. I'm sorry if I come across as a whiny attention whore. I feel like I'm the mutt and my brother is the show dog that cost a million dollars that every one wants to play with and love.

I wouldn't call you a whiney attention whore it's human nature to want attention from time to time. No human could remain sane in complete isolation.
Have you tried expressing your feelings to your family? I had to put all of mine into writing. It was going to be impossible to verbally tell them. It took me 5+ hours to type up. But in that 2 page letter, my parents eyes were opened more than i could have imagined.

<--- Mutt in search of Jeff.

It sounds a little like some problems I had with my family about a little over decade ago. We are very different people and it was hard to reach an understanding of each other. I was off to a rough start creating a life for myself and was fairly alienated from them. It turned out there was a lot more going on in the situation than what it first looked like, and they were frustrated that they didn't know how to help me, though the ay they expressed that didn't help matters.

By all means, keep looking for encouragement here, but your situation will likely require a private therapist to make any substantial progress.

I had the same problems with family, growing up. They wouldn't actually tell me they weren't interested and suffered (this is the right word in both senses) me, but they "clicked" better with my brother. It's a lonely, lonely feeling.

But don't give up. You'll meet people who know how you feel. I did.