Vomelche wrote:
A lot of abuse happens because we let it, noone wants to step in and do something. Abuse happens everywhere, to practically everyone on different levels. There is a lack of discipline and understanding on these things, we should be taking more action I think.
There is also like a mob mentality that I ready about in Psychology, where responsibility is diffused in a large population. An example was where a woman was stabbed and killed in a home with dozens of witnesses. And nobody did anything, not even call 911, because they figured someone else is going to do it anyway.
That's true, one reason abuse happens is that people don't want to step in and do something to stop it. I've seen this in my own family where my grandma is the victim of elderly abuse by one of my uncles, and the rest of the family lacks the balls to do anything about it. My grandma is like many abuse victims, they don't want to report it or press charges because this particular uncle is someone she enabled his whole life, as he's got bipolar disorder, and if it weren't for my grandma paying his rent until she "allowed" him to move in to care for her, he would have been on the streets years ago. He's been fired from every job he's ever had.
Unfortunately, this uncle was never a threat to himself, and emotional abuse isn't considered a threat to others, so there's no way anyone could force him into treatment. It's a really sad thing, but I have chosen for my own sanity to cut that uncle out of my life, and the only reason I visit my grandma these days is that he stays in his room the whole time people are over.
My dad's side of the family is just one example of nobody being willing to stop abuse, and there are other families where children are sexually and physically abused for generations because nobody puts a stop to it.