Too autistic for this forum

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It seems that everyone here has a social life and dated in high school. I have done none of these, so I feel left out. Most of you were born on the right planet, but in a different way. Not me though.

I didn't date in high school, or much any other time. Never had much a social life either. Of course, it'd be a lie to say Asperger's is my only problem in life. Some people bloom early, some on time. Some bloom later. Not sure when I'll bloom, if at all.

I didn't get my first boyfriend until I was 20. I also don't have a social life.

I mean I guess a lot of people here didn't date in high school or have a social life but even my situation seems rare relative to the members of this forum.

I don't have a social life and I never went to high school. Lots of people on here never go much outside their own houses, never mind not having a social life.

Do you want to rethink your statements?

Also, I'm a virgin and have never had a girlfriend. I'm 24 (25 in June).

Your situation is not rare for this forum. I also didn't date in high school and I also have no social life. Lots of those types around here. Lots of recluses and hermits, too.

Wait, my house has an....out-side?

Too autistics are better than one.
You may feel different but to be honest, you couldn't be more wrong.
We are all very similar.

If you really think that, then you haven't read enough posts here. I am 38 and have never had a girlfriend. I have probably been on 5 or less dates my entire life and my social life consists of me sitting on the back porch of an alcoholic friend's mom's house while he drinks. The other part of my social life usually involves me fixing a car for someone.

I never dated in high school. Nor did I even THINK about going to prom. I've been in one relationship, but I'm a virgin at the age of 27 and I'm prepared to be a 40+ year old virgin, because I don't want to do one-night stands.

There's probably NT's on here, who are here to understand the mind of someone with Asperger's/autism. They're the ones with "normal" lives and friends.

Sorely mistaken friend,

- Almost 23 years old now
- Longest relationship with a girl, 6 months
- Common loss factor of girlfriends is me not figuring out when they want to do stuff, Or telling them they're pretty enough
- Fixation is on my computer so I rarely leave it unless I'm taking a long walk to ease anxiety
- Live with 2 social butterflys that have helped me mask what I lack in social skills
- No friends at all, used to have a friend but recently lost him (not sad about it, he's a follower, would rather smoke to be in the "cool" crowd then hang with me)

- Not always aware of "fashion"
- Feel no need to fix my virginity as I have better s**t to do then entertain a woman
- Live with my mom and sister
- Mom thinks I fake it all
- Sister knows that I don't and accepts me
- Our roommate thinks i'm some sort of genius but i've tried to explain to him many times that anyone is capabable of learning anything if they actually WANT to and put time towards it. The things I know are just results of books and trial and error, nothing more.

A while ago I had been approached by a certain female on another website.
It was some sort of activists group and we shared a lot of ideas so we talked frequently(neither of us had a life)

How is this relevant to this thread? Im getting there

Eventually we started talking about dating and she said that she liked to hear males that were knowledgeable on certain areas and she was surprised when I told her that I hadnt really found any of those offline.
She thought I was one of those bitter males but I went on to explain her that the way I speak online has little/nothing to do with how I talk or act offline.

I have all the time in the world to look at the screen and make sure that my post makes sense and is somewhat interesting.
And same thing applies to every other member they probably come across as less autistic than they are because they are more comfortable(as a matter of fact one of the questions specialists ask you in Spain is if you feel more comfortable using a computer to express yourself and why)

Spongy is right. It seems stupid to start a fight on which one's life is the worst, it's very depressing. OP is obviously wrong and we all have issues. I won't participate anyway, do what you want.

I am not aware of a fight? Don't know what you mean.
. Haven't had friends my age since, um, can't remember. Only real life friends now are really far away and 32 years younger than myself. When i try to be friendly i make mistakes.
. I've had relationnships in the past. But they were short & ended badly. You may have much more in common than you think.

Last edited by alpineglow on 27 Aug 2012, 3:14 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I agree.
I think it's hard to see anyone being autistic who talks on a computer as they seem "normal" to the onlookers.
Mind if you spell a word wrong, you automatically have dyslexia. Ell-oh-ell, smiley face.

I meant to compete. It's looking like a competition. But I won't stand in the way, no worries.