Scared they won't believe me

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As you may or may not know I am in a relationship with the most wonderful guy I've ever met. We've already pinky promised each other that we will not break up(even though he's told me he's not going to leave me and when we promised he said "I already told you...")

On Friday I got jealous over something really stupid. I don't even want to say what I said. I said a mean comment that I also refuse to say. I'll say it anyway...

"Go ahead, have some of her witch poison." This girl is also my very, very, very best friend. I went outside to calm down and when I got back in I apologized. She said on Facebook when I got home that she understood.

The main teacher wasn't there that day, but the other teacher was. He told the teacher who wasn't told her about it. We'll get to that part later.

The next day I found out that I have an in-school suspension for bullying my best friend. After school my mom talked to the teacher who wasn't there that day.

So today my mom and I were talking and my mom said the teacher that was there told the main teacher that I threatened to shove something down my friend's throat and then the main teacher told my mom.

As soon as my mom told me that's what she was told, I broke down and started crying. I didn't say that and wouldn't dare to threaten my best friend after all she's done for me and how understanding she was about my jealousy.

I even asked my friend on Facebook today if I said that and if I've been bullying her.

My friend said that I wasn't so nice but she wouldn't call that bullying. She also told me that I didn't not threaten her. My friend, myself, and the main teacher are going to talk to her about all of this.My mom also wants to get to the bottom of this.

I love my partial boyfriend. My best friend is one of the few people at that school I trust. Everything is cool between me and my best friend. I don't see why somebody would tell somebody that I did something very serious and make me feel like even more of a screw up.

whoever made that obnoxious stuff up is the one who should be punished. good for you for sticking up for yourself.

With that many people to back up the true version of your story, I think they will probably believe you. You will probably have to repeat what you said, so that they understand how it could be taken out of context and turned into shoving something down someone's throat.

I think it's really awful that they made up something like that. The teacher was either way too paranoid, or just wanted to start drama.

I know exactly how that is! People--students, parents, and teachers--would lie about me and say I did things I didn't do, especially in middle school. All you can do is fight it and try your best to make people understand the truth. It doesn't always work, but at least you'll have some people to bash when you're accepting your Nobel Prize!

I'm actually having trouble following what you've said. What did the boyfriend have to do with this? So this was in school? You're 19, so I'm assuming this is college? I didn't even know college has in-school suspensions.

I wouldn't worry about the in school suspension. It's really no big deal. My son used to get them constantly, except his were in school detention. When he was suspended they would send him home for 3 or 5 days. Every month he got at least one of each. Granted, he hates school and quit to take his GED, but my point is that the teachers nor the kids held that against him.

My youngest daughter who is an A and B student and a pretty good kid has had a couple over he years but not many. Almost everybody gets at least one during their academic career. Even my oldest, the honor student who never gets in trouble and always gets picked to be the library aid or office aid had a 3 day suspension. I had sent two Advil to school with her one morning to take at lunch because I had given her some at breakfast and wouldn't be in town that day to bring them to her. Somebody saw it in her purse and ratted her out to the principal. He had to suspend her even though he knew it was Advil. It's that zero tolerance thing and he admitted it was stupid. He also added on the form about a lighter she had in her purse, which she forgot to take out before going to school. He wasn't mad about any of it, it was just protocol.

As to the remark you made and your bf being a little annoyed, that's nothing for you to get this upset over either. In any relationship at some point or other, one of you is going to be annoyed with the other one and if the relationship lasts long enough, you'll be downright furious with each other at some time or other over the years. Those things work out though. People argue, they get mad, they get annoyed, they get their feelings hurt, then they make up. It's all part of the cycle of it, and you are never going to have a relationship with anyone where one of you doesn't get annoyed, mad, hurt, etc at some point. That doesn't mean it's the end of things at all. It's normal. There is no "perfect record" for a relationship. It's impossible to have one where that hasn't happened. Chalk it up to life, apologize if you need to, and move on and know that it will eventually happen again and you will also get annoyed with him at times and thats ok too.

I think this is an example of black and white, all or nothing type thinking. I do it sometimes myself, but I have to remind myself that just because something isn't going perfectly at the moment doesn't mean it won't smooth out and go on as it should later on. A mistake doesn't mean something is ruined.

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