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Kjas
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02 Oct 2012, 6:54 am

The title is self-explanatory. Vent about your family here, it doesn't matter what it is, how much detail or if they're extended family or immediate family.

Vent Away!....

P.S. Free feel to support the other posters in the thread if you feel up to it also.


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02 Oct 2012, 7:41 am

I do not even know where to begin......



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02 Oct 2012, 8:25 am

Have I not done that enough here?

Besides I need comfort and affection, getting that from my family would be akin to asking Beelzebub for a hug.

:cry:



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02 Oct 2012, 9:47 am

I hate my family. Half of them are rapists or pedophiles, 25% of them are drug dealers, and the rest are dicks.


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02 Oct 2012, 10:35 am

I hate my stepdad he's an abusive manipulative sociopath that lives off my moms hard earned money.My mother enables him and doesn't stick up for herself or her children. I have been mentally abused by my stepdad since I was 13 years old. My dad on the otherhand I don't hate but at times he has a bad temper and he used to punish me harshly when I was younger esspecially when he was having a meltdown and I was in trouble. He's not like that anymore but he sets my expectations too high. Now my mom is calling my sister with guilt trips and then later my dad calls my sister telling her my brother told him to f*ck off.I can care less what happens now maintaining peace is impossible.I cannot call my own mother without getting harassing calls from my stepdad and death threats.


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02 Oct 2012, 10:44 am

Except for my immediate family and maternal grandparents, I have a strong dislike of everyone I'm related to. When my uncle died an agonizing death I literally didn't feel anything for him. I was always treated like the black sheep and was merely tolerated every time there were family gatherings. My paternal grandfather died young and the only memories I have of him was his permanent scowl and how little he cared.

They have all had plenty of time to apologize or try to explain themselves and they have never attempted to contact me. I was always given the worst gifts, never treated with respect and while never abused was always neglected especially compared to my older brother. I did have a good laugh at my uncle (who always considered me a big antisocial geek) when I ran into him at a baseball game and literally everyone there knew me by name. The look on his face was priceless :lol: What I can't understand is that all my mother's friends loved me as much as their own children, so it wasn't a case of me being a bad kid or anything. I'm simply puzzled to this day why I was last on the list for everything in my family.



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02 Oct 2012, 8:50 pm

demeus wrote:
I do not even know where to begin......


Anywhere you like. Or whatever is most annoying - it's up to you.
If that was rhetorical, then my apologises.

DiscardedWhisper wrote:
Have I not done that enough here?

Besides I need comfort and affection, getting that from my family would be akin to asking Beelzebub for a hug.

:cry:


*hugs*


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02 Oct 2012, 9:02 pm

Kjas wrote:
DiscardedWhisper wrote:
Have I not done that enough here?

Besides I need comfort and affection, getting that from my family would be akin to asking Beelzebub for a hug.

:cry:


*hugs*


*hugs* thanks.



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03 Oct 2012, 6:23 am

To two aunts and one uncle:

I will never forget 30 years listening to your LIES about how I was idiot, dull and useless.

Now that I'm an adult you are surprised that I don't care about you.


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03 Oct 2012, 11:49 am

hahaa........i love venting my frustration..

I am frustrated totally not only with family but majority of people.

But ya family is the first sore thumb.

Alcoholic, abusive, psychopathic father gone into gutter dead drinking stinking pig.
Narcissistic, pissed off negative mother i ignore you....you know why
Barbaric, stupid elder brother..........get lost...
Manipulative, cunning, show off aunty........i dont care about you.
Bitchy, sociopath mother in law.......go to hell.

So you'll spend 50$ on travelling and coming all the way to my house
and tell me how useless, stupid or good for nothing I am....
No need i ignore and reject all of you now.


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03 Oct 2012, 5:15 pm

I can't say anything about my family. My mom did the best she could as an impoverished single mom in the '60s and '70s with an undiagnosed special-needs kid. I never met my father except once in family court to get my mom some child support. The only bad thing he really did was nothing. My mom's 9 brothers and sisters all pretty much had their own things and ignored us, and my mom was not big on asking for help.

I was pretty much an orphan except for evenings and weekends. And I was an only child, too. I was lonesome a lot. :cry:


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03 Oct 2012, 11:21 pm

They just don't f****ing get it, none of them, even the ones I supposedly am 'connected' with. I mean I try being clear about how the damn PTSD effects me and that i am really struggling with it and the thought that I really need serious psychological help. Feels like they don't quite take it seriously and that i somehow have more control over it than I let on.

My brother thinks I should just quit trying to figure out what's wrong with me, and I see his point in that constantly dwelling on what all is wrong may not be a good thing...but I can't very well just deny it and go on like its not a problem, I've tried that approach and its hurt more than its ever helped.

I have people in my family who think the whole system is totally evil and that if I go to it for any help I will be screwed, and I hate the system just as much as the next person due to how corrupt and trashy it's gotten but its the system we have so I can't just avoid professional help out of fear of anything associated with the system.

Some people still try to say I dwell on things and I should just relax its just confusing people try to be supportive but then whenever i think of ways to help myself it seems everyone has something negative to say about it or reasons with witch to convince me I should just try something else first....or this and that. Mainly they just don't get it, I feel I am going insane here but everyones totally oblivious thinking its just something in my head I can think away. I mean I now feel even those closest to me don't really understand.........I don't want them to know what PTSD is like but their total ignorance really gets to me. It was the same thing when I was a kid, I was never doing 'fine' even since a young age i was struggling with depression and anxiety but people always assumed it was something I had control over.


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04 Oct 2012, 2:57 am

My brother went on another drug induced rampage. I spent the day locked in my room cowering in fear.

By 8pm I was pretty freaking hungry.



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04 Oct 2012, 3:55 am

I'll tell you, it gets kind of tough ;_;

Not counting the stuff my parents are going through, my brother tends to ramble on in a really mean tone, at which point I try to retreat into my room (Which is actually a closet)

He starts to think I'm ignoring him, and just starts talking louder demanding a response.

>_<

But damn; I've heard some much worse stuff my NT classmates have gone through, yet some of them brush it off like it's nothing. I don't want to think about what would happen if I were in their situation ._.



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04 Oct 2012, 3:57 am

Does he burn you with cigarettes and douse you with pepper spray whilst breaking your property and stealing your money?

I'm not trying to compare, I'm just asking. I'm not really sure how one is supposed to co-exist with someone like that.



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04 Oct 2012, 3:58 am

DiscardedWhisper wrote:
Does he burn you with cigarettes and douse you with pepper spray whilst breaking your property and stealing your money?

I'm not trying to compare, I'm just asking. I'm not really sure how one is supposed to co-exist with someone like that.


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Holy sh*t.

I keep finding people who have it worse than me. o_o

EDIT: Sorry, not trying to make you depressed if I came across like that or anything.

But still. How the hell???