Bullied by a doctor yesterday :(

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I had a horrible experience yesterday getting a referral. I made an appointment with the nice doctor but she was inexperienced so she called in the other doctor, who basically ripped me to shreds. I may not be the best at reading people but she treated me with such utter contempt and disgust even the most autistic person would have cottoned on. She was EVIL!! !! The nice doctor filled the referral form for me, however, and technically I suppose I got what I went for. But today I feel like the ugliest, most shameful piece of cr*p in existence. I know this feeling well but it's been a while since I last experienced it. How can another person make me feel so bad? I hate myself today.

I have felt treated with contempt by my psychiatrists before.

What did she say?

What happened to 'the most trusted members of the community' tag?

Isn't it crazy how some doctors can actually make a living in such a profession, and actually insult and hurt people they're supposed to be helping?

What did she say?

Heres one of my experiences:

Me: "I feel like I can only speak to people in facts, meaning when I was a kid I spent a LOT of time learning certain things so I could have something to talk about"

Doctor: "meaning you BS?"

Me: "No, meaning its about sending and receiving information when I speak to others"

Doctor: "hahahahah"

He thought he was hilarious, I felt defeated.

Also:

When he booked me a psych appointment, with this woman with a 3 month waiting list, the most important factor he wrote on the report was "has tried ecstasy" above anything else!

It was ridiculous, I tried to explain to him that its not something that warped my way of thinking, that what I've discovered about myself is the result of a life-long experience but he just wouldn't listen.

He then wrote down "thinks he has aspergers" even though 2 other doctors at the same clinic and another psych, whom I know he could speak to about it, all diagnosed me with some sort of PDD, it was obvious to any that listened my emotions don't work in a normal way. After this I stopped mentioning aspergers, and only talked about my symptoms and life, then it was brought up to me by a psych!

However he did get me the reference I needed.

I don't think I'm ready to tell you what she said. My husband thinks she was indignant that I'd researched into my own condition. I didn't mention Asperger's, though. I kept it to 'autistic spectrum disorder' because I thought that was more open, if you see what I mean!

I'm sorry .

I have found psychiatrists to be some of the most profoundly evil people I have ever come across. My parents marched me off to any number of psychiatrists, so I have encountered many in my lifetime. Out of all those, I can think of only one who came close to being a decent human being.

I did once see a free counselor (I don't know what his certification was) who was kind, so that might make two.

I have found: the more degrees, the more evil. The fewer degrees, the kinder.

Well it always could have been worse... at least you didn't loose it like I did one time.

I ran across one years ago that was the rudest, nastiest man I've truly ever met...treated me like I was something he stepped in he wanted to scrap off of his shoes.

I sat and took it for almost 20 min...then I almost had him for lunch with a side of mayo.

Somewhere out there I'm sure there is a chart with my name on it reading..."this woman is a psychotic bi*ch...do not provoke verbal attacks."

I know it's hard...but try not to let it get you too down.

Its quite simple there are people who have no empathy. Getting a med degree is
hard work. I was basically taking a pre-med course load (major chemistry , and minor
biology). The people doing the same were either: odd as me, ruthless pyschopaths,
arrogant a$$es or nice people(for the life of me I can think of only one nice guy,
oh I am not counting a few who were nice that had no chance at med school).

It takes a kinda ruthless drive to complete a pre-med degree, med school and internship. So yes a high percent of doctors are evil

Yep, that's exactly how this woman treated me!

Thanks, everyone, for your support.

Yup, and thats why I'll never be diagnosed.. I will continue to reassess myself.. when others feel they are not "aspie" i will listen and compare myself with them.. Ultimately, its not that important I fit into some form of class

I get by so i need it (diagnosis) for nothing..

Corvus, are you in the UK too?

Uhoh, the one I'm seeing on monday had a 3 months waiting list, is supposedly one of the best in the state. I wonder if she is evil? Possibly, possibly not.


I'm just going to be honest with her, she can't dictate what I do anyway, I'll just treat hers as an educated opinion.

Are you in the UK?

I had a similar experience with the first psychiatrist I saw- he basically sat and patronised me for 2 1/2 hours before pronouncing that I was a "nice normal person" and that there was no way I was even remotely autistic because I wasn't mentally ret*d, emotionally blank and had been able to organise an appointment and get along to his surgery. The only thing he was remotely interested in was the fact that I no longer see my biological father. He also gave me a half hour lecture on the evils of wasting his time seeking a psychiatric diagnosis, what a big stigma mental illness is and asked me if I really wanted this stigma to apply to me. From what I've heard on here and elsewhere, psychiatrists, councillors and normal doctors aren't really much good for ASDs anyway.

What kind of dr?

I had a really bad experience with a gastroenterologist a few weeks ago. I posted about it here. Basically he'd call me and leave messaged on my vm that he had to "urgently" speak with me, and then be unavailable. Also, he scheduled me for a liver biopsy and the radiologist refused to do it when I got there because the tumor that he is trying to biopsy was too small and too close to my lung. I was furious. This was a specialist that my dr recommended too. I ended changing dr's.

What I thought was wierd is that he would call me and tell me he needed to talk to me about my MRI or whatever "urgently", and then be surpirised that I was pissed about him using the word "urgent" in the vm. Wouldn't an NT be freaked out about that too?

Anyway, I plan on telling my dr what happenned next time I see her, because I thought he was an exceptional jerk. If you need to see a specialist, I'd either tell the dr you need another referral and tell her what happenned, or ask people you know about recommending a specialist.

Nope, I'm in one of those countries your country stole from the Natives (Calgary, Canada)

This makes me angry, this kind of thing has happened to me. Scrulie its not your fault. At medical school doctors don't learn anything accept how to hone and polish their ego. Its ridiuclous and they rarely have good people skills, I don't think anyone makes me feel lower than a doctor. Don't worry they're the ones in the wrong, at least you got your referral, best of luck.