Bug me one more time--I dare you!! !

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If my "dear" hubby calls me one more time, I'm going to tell my boss the real reason I need to leave at 12 today!! !! !! !! !! !! !!

I need to leave at 12 today so that my husband can have a convenient tee time to get in 18 effing holes of effing golf. So I am giving up FOUR HOURS of sick time. For HIM to PLAY GOLF!! !! ! How about if I just quit my GD job so that he can do whatever he wants without the inconvenience of having to care for our son all day. Then HE can get a job and have fun WORKING ALL DAY, then have to WORK ALL NIGHT too because I"LL be worn out from taking care of the kid all day.

I'd like to see him give up something so that I can do something.

Okay, everybody. Pile on and tell me how selfish I'm being. It's just that I give him lots of time alone whenever I can but he doesn't reciprocate. If I'm home, even if I'm deathly sick and can barely stand up, he takes advantage of it. I go to work sick because of this. I take our son everywhere with me--the grocery store, whereever I go, even if I don't have to, just so that he can have a couple of hours to himself. But if he runs any errands, he's delighted to be able to leave him with me. I think he's only done it once. Neither one of us has any friends or relatives that we trust, btw.

Sorry to hear that he's making you lie and slave for his comfort.

You have made me feel better about being single (I was married for a long time, but that's another story). Your post reminds me of the end to the Matchmaker song in Fiddler on the Roof. The song begins romantically with lines like:

You're not selfish, he's the one being selfish. Golf my *ss! If I were you I'd tell him to arrange his golf on your off days or stick his golf clubs where the sun don't shine.

You can say no. You need to say no. You need to realize you are worth more than this. For real.

The only time I'd think that he should have the right to ask that is if 1) the golf is part of an extensive physical therapy program that is helping him recover from an accident so he can get back to work, or 2) he's meeting with a big shot for golf to network and talk about a possible job for himself, ie; something important to work and big bucks. Since it's not, you got the right to tell him you'll be home as soon as you get done running the devil down to Hibbets to buy himself some ice skates cause hell done froze over!

You worth more than this baby, for real. I so wish you could come out here some, cause I think you need some friends who tell you and show you that you worth more.

(((hugs))), Moon Pies, and RC Cola's to ya. Those made everybody feel better!

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Thanks for the affirmation. Unfortunately for us, DH works on my off days delivering for a steak place in Homewood, and his golfing buddy is a ne'er do well from the Blach's department store family who was married to one of DH's ballet friends and who blew through his inheritance and now deals pot and waits tables at night. He's very flighty and hard to pin down. He calls at the last minute.

I really wouldn't mind his golf days except he just can't seem to reciprocate.

How 'bout one of those minature pecan pies instead of a Moon Pie?

I think you're completely in the right to feel frustrated.

He needs to realise his family's finances are more important than a silly sport.

That said, communication is key.

So communicate to try and work this out.

You may need counseling though I don't know if that's possible since I don't know your collective finances.

But I definitely think he needs to get a grip on reality.