About to be dismissed from my job

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About a month ago I started working for the universities food services at a pizza shop, and unfortunately the work is becoming way too difficult for me. I started out by being taught how to sheet pizza dough and actually make a pizza but can't do it with precision or speed. Then I was taught to do cashier work but couldn't keep up during rush hour. My main problem is that my place of work is far too busy and I simply can't keep up with the work load ... I have been told they are considering transferring me to another business but I feel the writing is on the wall and I am going to be let go. This has gotten me very depressed and I just want to commit suicide because I am not good at school, can't work in simple environments, and have been told I have nothing going for me. Time to just end up. I have been thinking about committing the deed this Sunday.

Whoever told you that you had nothing going for you is wrong! I have no idea what you are going through or how you are feeling and I won’t pretend that I do. I do know this, ending it all will not be the answer. As long as you’re living you have something going for you. Life may not be easy or fun or comfortable, but it is precious and so are you. Keep strong. Is there anyone in your life you can confide in? Do not let your life circumstances dictate who you are.

It's important to remember that when you are depressed, everything in life looks bad so it's very important that you don't act on your current negative feelings. You should only make life altering decisions when you have a clear head.

Chances are you just haven't found the things you are good at yet. If you give up now you will never find them. I understand that it isn't easy and sometimes life just seems like one failure after another. I've gone through times like that and I don't know that anything I say can really change the way you feel.

I'm not sure that working at a pizza shop is anybody's idea of a great job. Maybe being transferred to another business might be just the thing to get you where you need to go. I suspect the kind of pressure that a food service job creates is not very good for people with Asperger's Syndrome. Working in a library or a book store might be a better fit for you.

My first job in college was as a grounds keeper. I picked weeds, picked up trash, dug sludge out of storm drains etc. There was nothing glamorous about the work, but it paid my tuition and it was the sort of work I could do without getting too stressed out. It was a good job for me at the time because I could listen to music while I worked or else think about what I was working on in my classes. At any rate, I was able to avoid much interaction with people, and apart from the time the horse sneezed on me, it wasn't too unpleasant.

Don't give up yet. Being a student is a time for trying different things and finding your path in life. If one sort of job isn't working for you, look for something else.

Good luck.

I think it is very rare for anyone to make it through life without getting fired from a job.

I worked for a place for just about 10 years and they fired me. I saw it coming and I think it was for the best anyway. I was really burned out on the job.

Also, one of my first jobs out of high school was just fixing stuck bowling return machines. I was fired for not fixing them fast enough.

If you are let go maybe after collecting your thoughts and calming down you could ask to talk to the manager. This is not to argue or anything, but honestly seek advice. Or just get their input on what they think your strengths and weaknesses are. If this is at a University I wonder if there is any kind of career counselor you could talk to.

If you feel uncomfortable doing so in person maybe do it in writing. Or talk to any co-workers and see if they might have feedback or a reference.

Otherwise, maybe talk to a staffing agency and see if they have any jobs that are at more steady pace like lite assembly.

Please don't die over a stupid food-service job! Just the fact that you still go in and try even though you are having so much trouble shows what a good employee you'd make. Food service is very difficult for people like us who don't exactly thrive on chaos and noise. Please give something else a try. Keep your ears open before class and during breaks.

I used to work at Chick-fil-A and I hated it. I had to cook eggs, which I can hardly even stand to touch; they picked on my appearance and they went too fast explaining how to make sure each drawer had the right amount of change. I cried on the way to work, at work, and on the way home from work. One morning, I just couldn't do it anymore. I took off my uniform, unplugged the phone and went back to bed. That same day, I overheard one of my classmates telling someone else that he'd just quit at the bookstore where I'd always wanted to work. It was about this time of year, so they were about to get busy for the holidays. I went in and managed to speak to the owner and mentioned that if he hired me now, I'd be fully trained by Christmas. I wound up working there on and off for 8 years.

There are no jobs on campus: I was lucky to get this one.

I have only been working at this job for a month i have no strengths. Now you may say I have time to get better, but I don't think i can and at that time let's say another few weeks go by than it is bye-bye for me.

You are going to have to work a lot of different jobs before you find the right one. Offing yourself over a services job, while as a college student, is just dumb.

Let's see.... I gave up a career with a Fortune 500 company because of the typical "AS marriage destruction" routine but it was to prevent getting fired, then went and worked for a place that was heinously wild-man NT friendly and pure torture for me every day. On Friday I was depressed because I knew I'd have to go back on Monday. Meanwhile, marriage and life getting even worse and the job could hardly pay the bills.

Lots of time spent in the garage pretending to restore an old empty shell of a car and really curled up under it wanting to be dead. It was nice that summer to have a lighting bolt miss my head by 3' too. I looked at where the bolt went, where I was only 30 seconds earlier, and only one word came up in my ringing head "damn".

Eventually I got fired and fired with a wife that didn't work, who had kids, and a mortgage, the whole bit. How's that for pressure.

You want to be a single student depressed over a entry level service job and end your life over that? I cannot feel sorry for you. You have not yet even begun to fail. The more you fail now the better you can handle it later. You don't want to be in your 30s feeling like this, do you? Heck at least you had a job to lose. You'll have more.

If you are going to crash and burn, learn to enjoy the ride.

I couldn't have said it better! A crap-job like making pizzas is NOT worth it... heck, even losing a TOP job isn't worth it! There's always more work out there, even if it's looked down on for not being glamorous - heck. garbage pickup guys get paid very well!

I have nothing going for me. I was thinking about leaving this world tomorrow. I just feel bad for my parents; there so stressed out as it is.

I am extremely scared to go into work today ... why can't I just drop dead. This is extremely unfair that I am placed into a world I can't function in. If there is a God, why would God punish me for this?

Well it appears you have survived the weekend. Now all you have to do is be courageous and survive the day. All they can do is fire you, they can’t kill you or eat you. Life goes on and tomorrow is another day so worry about it then.

"Courge is being scared to death - but saddling up anyway." - John Wayne

I've been let go of a couple of jobs. One I had no clue it was about to happen and the other I knew it was coming.

Its not easy but in the end, after a week or so you begin to realize just how much better off you are not working there anymore.

The job market may suck but there is something out there you just need to look.


and seriously man, do you really think doing it over a pizza job makes sense? You life is worth a lot more than that. Lots lots more.

I am now in a position of considering applying for grad school, but I don't really have any academics I have studied under (save for one guy) who can write me a reference because I have only taken courses once with profs and never again. I am in a position where I do not really know anyone and no one can vouch for me.

Additionally, I am taking a double major in history and political science and there is a good chance I will not make the GPA requirement to get my poli sci degree. I was forced to take a fifth year of undergrad studies because I didn't have enough credits to graduate and feel I just wasted four years of my life that won't help me at all going forward. I just want to die. That way my parents will never have to worry about my failing in life because I'll already be gone. I just worry what will happen to my parents when they're old ... will anyone take care of them?

Wow suicide and progress in one day...

You made it to Tuesday.

As you make it through each stage of this crisis filled time, I hope it will become more obvious to you that suicide is a really bad idea in this situation. I know how bad it can feel to be alive sometimes, but honestly, it's extreme. Please don't kill yourself out of immaturity.

Everything may look hopeless, but you don't know the future. I was suicidal many times when I was younger, but every time I did not kill myself (or every time I "put off" killing myself, as I liked to put it back then) ~ I got more in the habit of staying alive, and being OK with it. It's been at least 25 years since I decided it was not going to be my solution. I used to still get obsessed with suicide anyway, even after I made the decision to remove it as one of my options, but that passed after a while too.

As much as my life might suck by "objective" or my own standards, it's worth living.



Also if you do care about your parents, this is not a thing to do. And not because no one will be around to care for them when they are old. I really don't think it's possible to reduce the stress in your parents' lives by killing yourself. I think it would be more likely to ensure that they would be permanently stressed by such an action.

They'd never believe it was really over a restaurant job; they'd probably go on the rest of their lives feeling as if they failed at the most important thing they ever tried to do. Please consider putting yourself in their shoes, I guess it's hard to relate to if you don't have kids of your own, but really, no parent wants their child to commit suicide, and you do not know better than they do what's best for them in that regard.

Because suicide is irreversible, you must always default to delaying it when the desire comes around. I know this is easier said than done. What are your typical activities & mood levels like in the course of say, a week? Do you get outdoors much?

It's kind of a cliche, but physical activity outdoors is rarely going to make matters worse. I know it can be extremely difficult to get started in anything of that nature, but it can quickly become a routine, and it kind of tends to build in the opposite direction of the current vicious cycle you seem to be running in.

Not saying exercise is the cure for depression on its own, of course. Or for everyone.

This isn't a suicide worthy situation no matter how you look at it. It might be time to look at alternative directions if you are feeling desperate that way, but you aren't even close to being out of options.

Please don't take this as a substitute for medical advice. Speaking of which, as I'm sure you know, it's considered to be a good idea to seek medical advice when you're feeling suicidal, just thought I would throw that out there...

Hermier is so right.

Disraeli,
You would do well to consider these words - She is speaking with true and wisdom that comes from age and being in a similar circumstance.