How can I get the feeling of sadness out of me??

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I have had to end a friendship for various reasons. Even though I knew it was the right choice, I have felt depressed all day. Especially since I know that she would not really care. How can I feel happy again?

listen to some favorite music. eat comfort food. snuggle with pet. most of all, give it some time. time will heal this.

Go to some event with people?

If being around other people might be too much trouble, head off to the nearest library. If you've not got a library card, now's a good time to get one. Checking out a book or two is optional, but pulling a few down and looking through them shouldn't be.

It's just going to take some time. There isn't really much you can do to feel better about the situation right now. You will start feeling better about it eventually even though you may always regret that it had to happen. It will fade, especially the intensity of feelings.

I would suggest doing something to distract yourself from it. Something very absorbing that may help take your mind off it. Don't be overly concerned if you can't get it out of your mind right now though. Just remind yourself that you did the right thing, and sometimes that's hard. Also, know that these feelings will pass.

One thing I would advise against though. If you do drink, don't drink right now. Many times when you are stressed or a little upset, drinking can relax you and take your mind off it, but if you are very upset, I've found that it usually intensifies that feeling. You focus on it, you can't think straight about it, and you get very depressed over it. The whole "Crying in your beer" thing.

Also, pot intensifies moods too I've been told. (I can't smoke it because I get panic attacks from it and just don't enjoy it) Unless you are a regular smoker and know what it does to you, stay away from it.

I'd also say that you may have trouble turning your brain "off" to go to sleep and might lay awake thinking about it. If you can safely do so, an over the counter sleep aid could help you. They are simply antihistamines here in the US, and taken in the suggested dose are perfectly safe as long as you have no condition or other meds you take that would mean you shouldn't take it. Check with a pharmacist if you need to know that.

It does get better. It's also hard not to obsess over something major thats just happened. It's normal to do that, but try and counteract any negative thoughts with a positive statment inside your head, even if you don't believe it. It's amazing how well that works. I didn't believe it would until I tried it myself. You have to keep doing it and it's not instant but after a few days, you should start seeing results.

Also, if you just want to talk about it to someone and you have no one there that you are comfortable talking about it with, crisis phone lines are good at listening to you and talking to you about things. They are referred to as "Suicide Help Lines" most of the time, but they are there for any crisis, not just suicide. Many people call them for many problems, and the people are trained to help you try to feel better, although in many places they are prohibited from giving you any direct advice. It sounds like that what you want is just to feel better anyway, and hearing another human voice give you support and affirm that you did right can help.

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