Have I lost my best friend forever?

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13 Oct 2019, 12:15 pm

Since posting this thread...

https://wrongplanet.net/forums/viewtopic.php?t=370746&start=15

...my friend and I reconnected after things blew over.

But a few days ago, she commented on a news article, and was attacked online by a couple of SJW/Antifa-types. The people who attacked her found her phone number and sent threatening phone calls to her and her father because she blocked the online attackers. She de-activated her Facebook account, and that was our sole method of communication. I have no way to reach her, and I am worried about her safety.

I am worried that I have lost my friend forever.


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13 Oct 2019, 12:57 pm

I'm reminded of a novel in which one of the protagonists yells "S h i t !" in the most helpful manner he can. Possibly a Douglas Adams story.

Wish I could come up with a better response.

Maybe in some way you may yet succeed in getting back in touch. Fingers crossed.


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13 Oct 2019, 7:10 pm

She and I have been friends for 16 years. If I lose her, I'll never be able to meet as loyal a friend as her.


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Yesterday, 1:04 am

did you know any of their other friends on FB? maybe you could try getting in touch with one of them to pass along a message/contact information?

i hope that you can reconnect.



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Yesterday, 1:52 am

Maybe she will reach out to you



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Yesterday, 2:20 am

innominate wrote:
Did you know any of their other friends on FB? Maybe you could try getting in touch with one of them to pass along a message/contact information?

I hope that you can reconnect.
enz wrote:
Maybe she will reach out to you.
Agree with all of the above. Really wishing you good luck with this one.


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Yesterday, 10:57 am

It’s been a week, and still nothing.


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Yesterday, 11:47 am

Well I don't really know much about Facebook, but if your friend has (quite understandably) decided to be invisible for a while, I realize it's been a very long and unhappy week of suspense for you, but maybe she feels she has to remain invisible for longer than one week.

After 16 years it's hard to believe she would do nothing whatever to re-establish contact. Could she, eventually, when she feels ready, establish a new Facebook identity, and then find you that way?

Not only do I not know much about Facebook. I don't really understand friendship too well, or so I sometimes think! So I'm not really qualified to say more than that you must continue to wait and hope. I know that's easier said than done...

If, as you mention, her father was also involved, then out of respect for his wishes she may be doing things in a way she herself is not 100% happy with and would not necessarily have chosen.


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Today, 12:04 pm

innominate wrote:
did you know any of their other friends on FB? maybe you could try getting in touch with one of them to pass along a message/contact information?

i hope that you can reconnect.


I did. Nothing.


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Today, 12:10 pm

It still is pretty soon after the event, to be fair. Here's hoping in another few weeks, or say even maybe in the New Year, your friend will be in a position to make a fresh start.

After all, the controversy you mention sounds pretty scary. From something like that, it would definitely take me many weeks to recover and regain some confidence, some faith in humanity.


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