I used to be selfish, rude, and unfriendly and feel horrible

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I am 41 years old.

Up until about 35, I was a selfish, rude, and unfriendly.

I have regrets about this and feel bad about it all the time. Not to mention embarrassed.

I try and tell myself that I did not harm anyone or do anything that had any impact on anyone's future, but
I still feel horrible about it.

You can still be helpful and friendly to those that you meet today and in the future.

And keep that in mind when talking to brash young Aspies who just aren't ready to be helped, even though they ask for help.

Just your ego maturing. Dont beat yourself up about it. in fact beating yourself up probably made you rude selfish unfriendly in the first place.

I'm over 50 so even more time to make mistakes. The beauty of real relationships is forgiveness and acceptance, first for ourselves. That makes us more empathic towards others who react to us. Lessons learned are a gift and help us in the now with a person in front of us.

And success in life is getting up 1 more time after getting knocked down. I have little time in life to do and be what I want. I can't allow myself the luxury to dwell on what can't be undone.

A tool I learned is to reprogram our brains to truth not feeling. Have the truth written down, like I completely forgive myself And accept my life is journey...
Whatever works for you. Whenever you find yourself dwelling in regret, pull out the phrase, then if you can sing and find one song that fights that thought.

If there are specific people like relatives that you are still close to, it may be worth talking to them. They likely forgot and you are the only one remembering.

I am 21 years old.

Up until about 15, I was a selfish, rude, and unfriendly, among other negative qualities.

I used to have regrets about this and feel bad about it all the time. Not to mention embarrassed.

I tell myself that I did not harm anyone or do anything that had any impact on anyone's future.

I no longer feel horrible about it. It's in the past.




Seriously, it's in the past. If that selfish, rude, and unfriendly person is no longer who you are, don't worry about it.

•Remember that everyone makes mistakes at times, you are no different.

•Be honest about how these mistakes make you feel (frustrated, anger, guilty, sad, etc.) – without attaching these emotions or becoming addicted to them.

•Learn whatever lessons you can from the experience.

•Focus on what you can do now or in the near future to avoid repeating these mistakes.

•Life is a constantly unfolding process, no single event can dictate the rest of your life, so don’t pretend that it does.

http://www.theemotionmachine.com/stop-b ... t-mistakes
Found the above on this website. Easier said then done.