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I want to die and the reason may be very stupid to many of you. I don't want people to laugh at me. But I will say that my only friend passed away a year ago. I want to join him but when?

Well, there's always going to be people who try to mess with you, depending on your age group.

But by the same coin, there's most likely going to be nicer people as well.

And besides, you think your friend would want you to die accomplishing nothing? Even if you don't feel like you're important, even one person can make some form of a difference. In an Aspie case, doing it over the internet is much easier xD.

I'm not sure how I should "grab ahold!" of this situation, but I do realize how YOU should;



This issue is a rough thing to deal with; not at all funny, normal to go through. and it's because your dog's death.. Right? Well, I'm in the same exact boat you're in, however I've dealt with my crappy ship for over 5 years. It's a terrible thing to deal with, and I feel exactly like you... but look at it this way;

When you're dead, you’re going to be isolated. You’re going to be in a hole (or if cremated, a necklace and such), and you’re not going to see anything the same. It's not worth it, and I know you’re better than that. You should make your buddy proud, knowing that you didn't give in to death's game; you can prove yourself knowledgeable in a field you enjoy, and that happiness is the best thing to offer to friends. My dog was put down due to cancer, and I showed my dog that she didn't deserve any more suffering, and that she was a hero in my eyes for going through that. I make her proud every day, by working hard and taking care of two small mutts that will never fill her space in my heart. I do responsibilities through her eyes, and I do a little more everyday thinking: "She's proud of me, and doing what is right will make her happy"

Never ever ever ever EVER... look at yourself as a lower person. It makes you, and the people around you, unhappy and separated from you...


Do you really want to give in, when you can make your dog so much happier? My dog is looking down on me as a better person, because I didn't give in!


EDIT: If this isnt about your dog (full apologies if I assumed), please look at this the same way... make your friend PROUD! Accomplish your goals, and make your friend happier and happier! When your friends and aquaintances are dead and gone, they are always looking at you through the window your not looking at. Stop looking for them, and share your goals with them... they aren't so far away if you make the right decisions!

Yes it's because of Timmy. I never had a dog growing up. For a long time I never had friends, then for 6 years I had the best friend anyone can have. The way he greeted me when I came home from work will always be in my memory. When my parents and I sat down for breakfast and dinners together I remember Timmy bringing his airdog toy up the stairs and run up and down and also crying as he held his toy in his mouth because he wanted someone to throw it. Mom took it really hard for the week after he died. Mom retired from many years working at a retail store. So dad and I worked full time and mom was alone for a week. She cried and cried. Things got a little better once we saw Ruby. She was a surprise actually. The night Timmy died, my aunt immediately called Lorraine, another West Highland breeder and Lorraine was in tears and she told my aunt that Ruby is available for us. Ruby was only 4 months at the time. I saw her and held her that Sat only 5 days after Timmy died. My heart was crushed but I felt good holding her. She was born on May 2. Timmy started going downhill the same month. It's like God brought Ruby to me. Or maybe Timmy. My aunt shows and breeds dogs so she knows a lot of people. I remember my aunt showing me a picture of Ruby on her phone and I was in tears. We waited till end of Oct to actually get Ruby. Dad quit his job not too soon after Timmy passed. He now works from home and is fine with that. Going from a 200K salary to much less than that. But for a month without a dog in my bedroom was hard enough. I at times feel guilty that I kept Timmy's crate for Ruby to use. We got rid of all of his blankets, toys, dog bed, collar, leash. We kept his brush and comb and shampoo. I don't think we got a professional carpet cleaner to come after he died. Maybe we should. Perhaps that's why Ruby at some house accidents. Ruby will never replace Timmy. I do like her but no where near as Timmy. It's like a instant connection between Timmy and I. I can't tell the breeder about Timmy's death because the man has dementia and in a nursing home. Timmy was only 6 years old when he died of a incurable copper storage disease. It's where his liver couldn't get rid of the copper. He did have a full biopsy where the surgeon made a huge incision to look at all his internal organs and sure enough his liver was at end stage. I wonder why he would smell after a day or two of bath, his paws were rusty, he would have this hacking cough after he would bark, his breath smelled bad, he ate very slow, he drank a lot of water, he had vomit/diarrhea episodes too. Ruby eats fast. She has no problems when traveling by car and she eats fine when traveling. She doesn't chew her paws till they rust. She can go two weeks without a bath and has no body odor or bad breath.


How old was your dog when she died and was she your first ever dog?

I never had any real friends either. I sometimes prefer dogs over some people, because they are more approachable and not much of a problem. Having autism limits mine, and many others, in their communication to a point where it's miserable to just walk out the door sometimes. I loved my dog, if not less, than how much you loved yours. Make him proud, knowing that you didn't give in, and take the worst issues in life with a grain of salt. People who treat you badly do NOT deserve anything you have to offer.. They deserve a good back-handing, and a mug of common sense.

Be better than most. Make Timmy happy. Do what's right. And forget the rest.. My pet wasn’t my first dog, but she was the first and best one I ever had in my eyes. She was around 7-8 when she was put down, and she was very passive and sweet.

My condolences. My little mini dachshund, Thor, is curled up beside me right now and I would loose my mind if something happened to him. But sandloach7 is right. Be strong for Timmy and live for him. He gave you to the best he had to make your life brighter, so keep that with you as you go. Recognize that his love made you a better person and you have a duty to him to use that somehow. If its to love little Ruby or to volunteer at a shelter or something, you will feel a little better if you do something in his name. My brother went through this when his beloved boxer dog died after 14 years. He has a good job and donated 20 bags of dog food to the local shelter in his name. Thats a little more than most can do, but surely there is something you can do that would make Timmy proud.

True Timmy would want me to move on, not forget about him, but just be happy that his pain is gone. But his death is too much for me to handle and be happy. I'm not married either and don't have children. Things I rather not want. I have had boyfriends but don't want them, but at times I do especially around Christmas and Valentines Day. I want friends too. Sucks having this disability and not having friends. When I see my relatives all happy without issues in their lives it makes me embarrassed. I often ask myself why didn't mom abort me?

Give it time.

I don't think your reason is stupid. The best friend I ever had was also a dog. And it ripped me apart when she died. No human being has ever, or likely will ever, make me feel as loved as she did. For the first couple years after she died I couldn't even say her name out loud without crying.

It felt like even trying to be happy was betraying her. How dare I enjoy my life without her in it. But, with time, things really did get better. People would say that to me. The ones who didn't think it was dumb of me to grieve that long and that hard for a dog (or, at least, were kind enough to not say it). I'd think to myself "what do you expect me to do, forget about her? how the hell is that better?"

Thankfully, that's not what happened. Now I'm at the point where remembering her gives me more pleasure than it does pain. I still miss her terribly. I'd still give anything to have her back. But now I'm more happy for what I had than I am sad for what I lost, you know?

I think, if you give yourself more time, you might eventually start to feel that way too.

Dogs don't lie, steal, cheat, make us feel bad about ourselves, truly loves us, etc. People suck!

I recently again tried to kill myself. It's not as easy as it sounds. It's also not a job for the weak hearted and even I don't have the balls to go through with it. So, I'd say stop thinking about that.

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I've had 6 dogs in my life and its never easy to see a good friend pass away. The void will be there for a time and you will never forget your dog.. but trust me, after a while the pain is replaced by the good memories you have of him.

Its never a replacement but you really should consider taking in a new dog. You know they have much shorter lifespans than we do but they sure know how to live them. You were there and gave the little dog all the love he needed... be happy for that... and give that same love to the newcomer.

Dogs are very special and I have shed many a tear over dogs in my life. I currently have a Ministure Pinscher called Benji. He's 6. My best friends who lives in a city 1000 km away has two dachshunds that I adore. Just visited there for 2 weeks and it was hard to part once more..

Timmy would want you to move on and to get another dog. This is his wish for you, to give a good and loving home / companionship to a deserving puppy or young dog. A new dog can never replace Timmy, as all dogs are unique and have their own special personality, but can help you replace the emptiness you are experiencing.

Be strong...