List/Rant: I notice that I usually don't get along well...

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Well, the full title of this post should be "List/Rant: I notice that I usually don't get along well with people who are overly obsessed with power/money/sex/beauty/competition".

Power: I acknowledge that the more powerful you are, the more likely people will respect you and carry your instructions out, hence you will have an easier time accomplishing what you intend to accomplish. However, when I analyze why various groups/organizations that started off well ended up disintegrating into disharmony, I notice that the root cause is usually related to power struggles. I suspect that some people enjoy bullying me because they enjoy preying upon my powerlessness so that they will feel as though they are in power. I understand people when they tell me that Marx's dream of a class-less and caste-less society can only exist in science fiction, but nonetheless, I still feel disgusted whenever I witness people sacrificing ethics in their quest for accumulating as much power as possible.

Money: I once chatted with an NT who lost his patience with me halfway through the conversation, but I still remembered something that he told me, "You believe that money motivates you because society dictates so. I feel that you aren't genuinely motivated by money." If I list out all the advantages of being wealthy, I'm afraid that such an exercise might last ten days and ten nights. Even though I'm aware of the saying "Money can't buy happiness.", I notice that wealthy people stand a higher chance of receiving better healthcare and fulfilling their dreams. I won't blame you if you tell me that you are worried that you might run out of money one day, but I might be prejudiced against you if you tell me that you are majoring in something that you have zero passion for just because you want to earn lots and lots of money when you graduate. I disapprove of people who equate wealth with success and/or dismiss people not as wealthy as them as "lazy idiots".

Sex: I don't have any sex partner but I do have sex drive. That's why I dare confess to you all that I sometimes indulge in online smut fics. However, I feel that society might have been getting a little too obsessed with sex.

Beauty: I have read about Aspies who are obsessed with cosmetics and clothes because they want to portray themselves as beautiful. I'm not one of them. Um, I think that beauty itself is so subjective that beauty contests seem controversial to me. For instance, many people say that I look plain and even uglier in photos, but I view myself as beautiful. In the past, some people accused me of not showing them enough respect because I never bothered to doll myself up before I went to meet them. Even though I'm more conscious of the way I dress nowadays, deep in my heart, I still value comfort more than beauty. I enjoy reading about how celebrities use cosmetics to make themselves more beautiful, but somehow I have zero interest in imitating these celebrities. Some people call me a weirdo because I seem to lack interest in cosmetics, but I would rather spend time reading about my special interests than cosmetics.

Competition: Some people view life as a marathon. They keep telling themselves that they must out-run everybody else. I think that ambition is good to have because ambition usually leads to drive and determination which in turn lead to success, but I get stressed out whenever I have no choice but to interact with highly competitive people who can't stop comparing themselves against others. I would like to tell these people that life might seem long but it is actually short and unpredictable, so why stress yourselves out by viewing every aspect of your life as a competition featuring numerous competitors? Even if you often win, you can't possibly win every "competition" because no one is perfect. Such people sometimes resort to hurting other people to increase their own chances of "winning" something (e.g. fame) that turns out to be meaningless when one is old and dying.

Now it's your turn to compose your own list entitled "I notice that I usually don't get along well with people who ________________".

Rather than starting my own list, can I just borrow yours? I basically agree completely with pretty much everything you wrote... not just the items, but what you said about each one as well.

I think the things you mentioned play into each other a lot of the time; for example, that power struggles are often motivated by competition for power in addition to the desire to be powerful.

To add something of my own, I would say I usually don't get along with people who reject ideas without considering them first, or people who deny the potential validity of views they don't agree with. Everyone gets to make up their own minds about things and have their own ideas, but it bothers me when people argue against someone else's ideas without making an effort to understand them first. Similarly, it bothers me when people act as though their own opinions are somehow infallible -- a reasonable person, in my view, needs to understand that it's not just other people who can make mistakes.

"I notice that I usually don't get along well with people who:

act superior to all others over the smallest of things like the coffee you drink or the books you read.
who are obssessed with appearances particularly that of other people.
people who believe that if u don't do things their way that u are doing it wrong.
Those who judge an entire section of society by one experience. Example they see one episode of jersey shore and believe that everyone between the ages of 21-27 spends all their time in nightclubs getting drunk.