Dad Noises

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Family Guy got it right. My dad sits on the couch making "dad noises" so to speak, whenever he's home, and I have to work and it's driving me insane.

And he just made me move a stupid desk he doesn't even need moved right now - he just spent two weeks insisting that he didn't know if he'd need a home office or not, and then he yelled at me when I told him I needed to get my own work done instead of helping him align his photographs in the frame.

He then yelled at me like I'd done something wrong.

WHAT THE HELL.

i've known people who would rather be homeless than continue to put up with such as that.

Admittedly it sounds like there are missing details in your story and I can't make a judgment on most of it. I can't really help anything about your parents even if I knew more. For you, I'm picking up on a lot of agitation and depression, and maybe OCD and hopelessness. I can't diagnose you with anything but it is obvious you need changes in your life that you cant expect everyone but you to make, or to do it for you. You sound intelligent, but lack maturity and apparently due in part to relatively low life experience (aren't you about 15 or 16?). You really need to find ways to find yourself better therapy and psychiatric help. At the rate you are going, 5-10 years from now you will be like a lot of the most depressed, hopeless\worthless-feeling people with no prospects for the future that show up in love and dating, and the haven. You have time to get this under control if you don't wait for others to do it for you, and you work to stretch your comfort zone.

For now, perhaps it's best to let the thing with the desk go, and give your dad some space. If there is room, find stuff to do in another room or outside. I'm not trying to treat you like a little kid- these are things you can't avoid dealing with when interacting with other people, no matter your age or where you live.

What kind of counseling or psychiatric services (if any) do you now get?

I am in another room, wearing noise-reducing headphones, writing a final for English. It doesn't matter. My dad is a sensory nightmare, he has no concept of volume control, and he doesn't seem to care that I have work to do that can't wait, and moving the desk COULD have waited.

And I told you exactly what happened. I was working on my English, he told me to come move the desk. I helped him move the desk, and when he yelled at me because we weren't "done yet" I told him I was doing homework. Then he yelled at me.

I'd have more "prospects for the future" if my dad wasn't constantly dragging me away from my work.

Like having pictures on lined up perfectly is what matters. I am glad I don't have to deal with this and that my parents let me do homework. I am not sure I could manage that.