[Rant] Help me psychoanalyze this girl pls...

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I once told a girl via email that I would like to ask her some questions through Formspring but I don't know why types of questions she like/dislike. You know what happened next? She ignored my email and disabled her Formspring account the very next day! I had stopped posting comments on her blog. In the past, every time I posted a comment on her blog, she would delete that comment. But all my comments are nice comments that begin with "Your blog post reminds me of something interesting..." If you assume that she is some jerk, let me tell you that she is some all-rounded college student on a scholarship. Plus, she runs her own business currently and might become a politician one day. (By the way, I'm a girl too.)

Seems she doesn't want you stalking her online. Thats what would be going through her head at least. You apparently post on her blog constantly (you did mention 'I stopped'..that tells me you did it quite a bit) and she erased them...and then you sent her an email and she disabled the account.

If she does not want to talk or spend time with you person and you seek her attention online you may well understand why she is doing what she is doing.

I'd say stop before you get a restraining order tossed on you. Not being mean here, just saying it is likely what will happen if you continue.

Yep, forget her and move on. Probably a jerk, just seems nice.

I didn't know reading someone's blog and always posting comments was "stalking." I think i would be flattered if someone always left me comments. It would mean they are enjoying my blog and enjoy what I write. In fact I stopped reading a blog because the blogger acted all defensive because I didn't have the same view point as him so he took my comment as "negative." Other comments I have left him weren't even negative and he said they were. I didn't leave that many comments on his blog. But I decided to stop reading it and I removed him from my circle on Experience Project. I didn't like his attitude. Just another dumb black and white thinker. Don't share his view or agree, oh no your comment is negative so he acts like a jerk about it.

To all: Hi, thank you for your replies. Initially, I didn't feel like replying to your replies because 1. I'm in a bad mood now and 2. I might have misunderstood your tone since I can't see any of your facial expressions, I see only words. Um, now I'm replying because I don't want any of you to wonder, "Where has Icyfire4w5 gone?" Yup.

To Dantac: Your reply enlightened me, thank you. One day, I might be posting a rant wondering aloud why people often accuse me of stalking them when I try to show them that I'm just being friendly, but right now, I don't know how to translate my thoughts into words so I doubt that I will ever write such a rant.

To Volmelche: Hmm, I'm beginning to agree with certain WP members that Aspies stand a higher chance of encountering jerks than NTs because some NTs who are always nice towards fellow NTs seem to derive pleasure from treating Aspies badly.

To Uprising: I'm sorry, but can you kindly explain why her intention to run for politics one day causes her to ignore me? Thanks in advance.

To League_Girl: Ouch, I read somewhere that some people assume that people who disagree with their opinions are people who devalue them, so they over-react every time somebody else disagrees with their opinion. I used to be guilty of this (especially as a kid), but nowadays, I keep telling myself that my opinions aren't =myself. The blogger whom you mentioned might be such a person. I agree with you that he had over-reacted.

To Who_Am_I: Some people accuse me of trolling them when I tell them that I take a long time to understand the "signals" that people send to me when they interact with me, but hey, I'm not trolling; I'm telling them the truth.

To eric76: I think that I probably left 4 or 5 comments at most. I wrote every comment very nicely and politely to show the blogger how much I appreciated (and agreed with) her blog posts, but well, maybe she didn't perceive these comments as nice and polite. *Shrugs shoulders*