Upset because of Neurotypical sister

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I am a 10 year old Aspergirl, and my sister is a 9 year old neurotypical. I am pretty upset right now because she has been very mean to me me lately. Here is a recent conversation:


Me: Im sorry, it's just i.....

Sister (in an annoying voice): yeah, aspergers blah blah blah


Yeah, not nice. She has also hit me, called me ret*d, screamed at me even though she knows I am sensitive to noises, and more. What should I do?

stop telling her you have Aspergers. Its not a valid excuse to family or friends when you mess up because she wont understand. It is the start in the road to acceptance.

Reminds me of my brother...

Eventually, I just ended up locking myself in my room and play my laptop all day.

Sweet Pea hugs

Repeat after me:
"This is who I am. I am not sorry for being me. I love you. Now be nice or go away."

I experience these types of situations all the time with my younger sister. I often upset her and don't understand why (and she's rarely willing to explain). I've learned that talking to my mother about the issue is the best thing to do. She often is able to explain things in a way that I help me understand my sister's behavior, so perhaps talking to a parent would help.

To be fair the OP never stated what she was going to say, however telling someone you have AS and using it to justify something only works if the person your saying it to either knows what it is or is very understanding or can be teached(your the teacher). That discribes about 2% of the worlds population it seems, for the rest I would go with bethmc's line, short and to the point and I don't see where you would get in trouble for using it, wish I had used it when I was your age.

Being 9/10 isn't the best age either, our sister will likely grow up at some point and begin to respect you for who you are, however that takes time and alot of it. To be honest doubleing your age and keeping hers the same might end up yeilding the same actions, its amazing how harmless kids can be mean.

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I'm guessing she doesn't fully comprehend what Aspergers is. I have an older sister and while she was usually understanding when we were growing up, she often felt like my disability was used as a cop out or that I got special treatment. Naturally, she got annoyed by this (though I don;t recall her calling me any slurs). Also, sometimes when siblings fight with one another, they desperately try to find ways to hurt each other because they themselves feel hurt. I think the best thing to do is to calmly explain the situation to an elder, like your parents. Just say that you don't like her saying these things and you wish she would stop. Hopefully, your parents will act as mediators so that both of you can resolve the issue. I'm sorry I can't give you better advice than that and it's not fair that someone your age is dealing with harassment, from their own sibling no less.

Good luck and take care.

My sister didn't exactly care that I had Aspergers and she probably didn't know what it was either.

My brother hated listening to my parents talk, so I don't think he even knows. He would still make fun of me when I tic or scream at me when I wouldn't do what he wants. He never liked me because I humiliated him with all my eccentric behaviors.

My parents were no help when it came to dealing with my brother. When I was ticcing, they ignored me and replied "You should stop." Socially, they said, "You just need to learn how to be like everyone else." and told me that I need to behave "seriously" and "appropiately" to my friends.

To their demise, I was more liked by my friends when none of my family was there; unless it was my sister.

Ignore her, or go to a different room--or avoid her till she matures.

Go outside more often, if its possible or a better acting alternative.

When you're a kid.. no in general--being mature and kind doesn't mean you'll receive maturity and kindness.

I've had a younger family member make fun of my perceived reaction in a life threatening car crash and even randomly while playing video games with me punched me in the face as hard as he could.

Don't bother explaining it to her, she'll either mature on her own or she won't.

If your parents are understanding--inform them, or even better yet ask them what you should do in that situation so when they see that you are following the advice they gave you--they'll react better.

My (younger) neurotypical sister has bullied me all my life for being different. She has been genuinely cruel to me since she was a child.

To prevent this becoming a pattern, I say:

Tell your parents

Call her Neurotypical if she calls you Aspergers- see how she likes it.

Don't give her the chance to see your problems. Keep right away from her if she is behaving badly

Good luck

When I was 10, if someone had called me ret*d I would have likely taken an IQ test in private to see if that was true by definition, if I passed it I then would have challanged the other party knowing I would pass all along.

I never did that one however thats the kind of cleaver aspie thinking I used to(and still do) use shut down those types of attacks, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesen't.

NT's tend to throw words and meanings around alot so you likely can catch her on meny technicalities and when you to that bugging you won't be fun anymore.

Chinese burns are great weapons against siblings.

Do you "play the aspie card" a lot?

She might be resentful if you do and get away with things she might not.