Getting Fired / Accused of wrongdoing

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I am still upset about something that happened 4 years ago, I had a dream about it again last night. It was one of the more traumatic social experiences.

4 years ago I was fired from my job which I'd held for 18 months, the longest time I'd been able to hold any job. A few months prior I had been offered my own store, a promotion I declined for personal reasons.

At that time my pacemaker was running low on power, I didn't have good circulation. I was running very low on energy. I was trying to work 40+ hours a week. This job kept giving me more things to do. I completed training modules on my own time just to get raises for my prior experience in the field. (I now understand 'work' outside of work is illegal for any employer to ask).

I had earned a vacation week for the first time in my life. Oct 16th 2008 I was especially exhausted that day. The last 20 minutes there was a flood of customers. One customer left their things on the counter after paying for them. A different customer stole those things off the counter. I gave that customer their things again and left a note for the manager regarding the incident.

I suspended a sale for a customer not really knowing what they were asking. I was so exhausted. They left the store w/o paying for their things. I forgot.

It was a complete short circuit on my part. So it's not the "getting fired" thing that haunts me.

What happened the following Monday was completely unexpected. They came down on me like a ten ton hammer for nearly an hour, leafing through every transaction that day. They went into my employee purchases and nitpicked everything I had purchased for myself the past week.

They were insinuating all sorts of things:
Stealing, being lazy, ignoring customers.

It was as if my firing had to be justified as more than what it was. They behaved like idiot detectives, and made me out to be a "bad person" who deserved their scorn and ridicule. That same week's newsletter "made an example" of me as a warning to all other employees.

I e-mailed the owner to apologize, and ask for the earned vacation week (as it is required by law in some states, but apparently not in FL) - but was not ever responded to.

I still to this day blame myself for this. I had worked at my capacity for that time, and it wasn't good enough for these people.
Not only was it not good enough, there was something about me that drove immense suspicion and hostility during my firing, made it very, very personal, and left a mark on me that I still sometimes experience.

I hate it. I hate myself for being so different, too.

I`ve had similar experience, which also left me with bad feeling of job insecurity. I regret most not speaking up for myself both times it happened, guess its part of our nature.

Corporations do messed up things to justify firing people, because if they don't trump it up, they could get in trouble for firing you wrongfully. I think we are sometimes too trusting that everyone else is being straightforward.

I got fired a couple of years ago because, according to them, "I wasn't a fit." Three months in and I wasn't a fit. Boy, was I pissed.

Same here i was thrown out of a job
because my coworker played politics with me

She made nasty and lying complaints about me
nobody tried to verify her claims

I was asked to leave and also apparently insulted a lot
Lot of my money is still with them a big amount

So not only job, confidence, self esteem, money i lost almost my will to live
For 3 years i was at home and i literally went crazy, i developed lot of emotional issues
like depression, frustration, i lashed out on everyone, i developed thyroid illness

I guess the whole point is that Aspie's are not cut out to do certain types of jobs
like sales counter, telemarketing etc
It would be good if you can search for some job where there is less social interaction and multitasking
is less

Like data entry

The worst thing I've ever endured in this respect was in an SME company for engineering and about 12 years ago but still even to remember it is giving me the creeps.

I was hired and all the coworkers worked against me. For instance, when I needed tools or material and asked someone he would say "I don't know," or "go figure." I had no idea why. But since I don't care about people I simply brought my own tools.

After a while things got even worse. When I came back from the restroom someone had taken measuring tools from my workbench and I was held responsible.

On another occasion I was given incorrect technical drawings and also held responsible for the damage though it was obviously not my fault.

Finally, after four weeks or so, I had a major meltdown, grabbed my tools and simply went away. Later on it turned out that the owner of that company had told his employees he would hire a new guy and if he were better than the present workers he would go through his list of sick days and faulty work and fire one of the staff in favor of the new one. No wonder that they were all working against me and even sabotaging my work.

In the end I realized it was not my fault. You simply can't win in such a situation. And there was nothing I could do to avoid what was going to happen. When a pack of idiots is running wild you can't stop them.

Wow. That was just a really crappy deal. I am sure you made the store's local Sherlock and Dr Watson's day. Not everyone is that crappy. You are better off out of that crowd.

Sometimes poor management can lead to these problems and create a toxic work environment. Unfortunately most management probably doesn't even have proper knowledge or training to handle people. A majority resort to the classic approach of just pulling a lever in response to a problem.

You shouldn't blame yourself for this... it sounds like they probably wanted to fire you for a while and found a reason to get rid of you. Ultimately you are probably better off for it and will find a better job.

I hope you find a job that is a good fit for you and also a job where the supervisor appreciates your work. In the past I have had good and bad jobs and mostly the management can make or break a job environment.

You had nothing to apologize for, the manager should've known he/she was working you beyond your limits and knowing you had a pacemaker and shouldn't be working that hard. The manager was in the wrong and you shouldn't have been fired. What you should have done was complain about the treatment you had to go through.

Sweet Pea hugs