30 y.o. no job, no friends, no gf and bday all on my own

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TheRoadWarrior
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14 Sep 2012, 1:06 am

Hi all...

I'm turning 30 next week. There should be a celebration for anyone else in my situation. Should. But since I have AS, I, of course, have no friends, no gf, no job.

And nobody to hang out with.

And WP is the only place where I can share my sense of failure at life...



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14 Sep 2012, 2:16 am

Throw a virtual birthday party :doh:
And/or invite WP members near to your home :)


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14 Sep 2012, 4:45 am

I second helles's suggestion.
Or, you could just plan to make it your day and treat yourself to all of your favorite things. Not like people are necessary in order to have some fun.



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14 Sep 2012, 8:07 pm

Take yourself out for your favorite things...........ppl are overrated.



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14 Sep 2012, 8:35 pm

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Happy Birthday. :)


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16 Sep 2012, 8:11 pm

Oh dear. I can sympathise because I am always alone on my birthdays, too. It really hurts but I have just come to accept it and my coping mechanism to block out the pain is to either pretend that it's a normal day or to try and treat myself to nice things. I also remind myself that if I were surrounded by people throwing me a party they might be stressing me out and I might be wishing they would all go away. All of this helps but at the end of the day being alone and unloved sucks, no matter how hard you try to train yourself not to care. :(

Where do you live? I agree with the suggestion that you should try and find some WP members in your area and see if they will meet up with you.



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16 Sep 2012, 10:53 pm

:D I agree. You should make it your day. I'm older and in a similar situation. My birthdays coming up and I have no job, no date. It's hard but I'm going through the same thing and it has to get better. Have a good birthday anyway. I'm rooting for you.



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17 Sep 2012, 8:16 pm

lovetoread wrote:
:D I agree. You should make it your day. I'm older and in a similar situation. My birthdays coming up and I have no job, no date. It's hard but I'm going through the same thing and it has to get better. Have a good birthday anyway. I'm rooting for you.


I agree with this! Just because you don't have people to hang out with doesn't mean you can't make your B-day special! 8)



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17 Sep 2012, 10:18 pm

Hit up the strip club.



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18 Sep 2012, 12:17 pm

Poor you. Admittedly I do have family to spend my birthdays with, but not really friends. I don't go out drinking or dancing at a bar with loads of friends gathered for my birthdays, like I see my peers doing. I even know of a boy with possible Aspie traits who I thought might not be doing much for his birthday, but I saw on Facebook (real proof by photos and words) that he went out to an expensive bar all the way in London with 6 mates and apparently loads of others who they knew all gathered there, so there ended up being about 55 people there. Wow, what a lucky possible Aspie!

I can't complain, and I feel guilty if I do, because my mum and her sisters and brother and a couple of their friends and 2 of my cousins did take me out for a nice meal, getting my favourite bus and going for the meal to somewhere where they knew I would like, which was really generous of them, and it beats tarting up and going to some noisy bar with loads of rowdy youngsters, getting stupidly drunk.


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18 Sep 2012, 12:43 pm

I can relate to that. When it's my birthday, I do appriciate all the greetings, that tumble in on my facebook wall. But then again, I have an additional fake account with 30-plus random friends, and "he" got four birthday greetings :) Not kidding.



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18 Sep 2012, 3:19 pm

Happy Birthday for your birthday - am sure peeps on the forums will celebrate with you! I actively choose not to celebrate my birthday and I particularly loved the big 3-0. :)



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18 Sep 2012, 3:43 pm

why celebrate coming into this crappy world?! haha

like another member said. people are overrated;)



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23 Jan 2013, 11:47 pm

TheRoadWarrior wrote:
Hi all...

I'm turning 30 next week. There should be a celebration for anyone else in my situation. Should. But since I have AS, I, of course, have no friends, no gf, no job.

And nobody to hang out with.

And WP is the only place where I can share my sense of failure at life...


Hey, man. Long time no see. Where are you now? Still in Melbourne?



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24 Jan 2013, 5:27 pm

Ugh. This reminds me that I'm also turning 30 in a few weeks. Milestone birthdays can be tough, since they make you stop and reflect on your life, but they're just one day and usually come and go pretty quickly. At least that's what I'm telling myself, lol.



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24 Jan 2013, 5:34 pm

I have till April Fools' to get there. I don't know if I want to welcome it or dread it, but I do know it'll also be one year closer to retirement. :lol: