I love my friend, but...

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She's over here entirely too much. She comes over several times a day, just dropping by, usually calling when she's pulling up in my driveway. She just hangs around and talks because she sees that I'm not doing anything. She calls a lot too. I have limited minutes on my phone, I want to use them for important things. She knows this. Even though I may look like I'm not doing anything, that doesn't mean I want company. I enjoy being left alone and doing whatever it is I want to do. If I want company I will call somebody or go out and find somebody to hang with.

I realize that friendship is give and take and that I'll be inconvenienced sometimes when a friend needs me. I'm fine with that. But constantly? I do not need to see her four or five times a day! Subtle hints do not work, nor do not so subtle ones. I can't come right out and tell her because she's really sensitive and I don't want to hurt her feelings or cause her to not come over at all. This isn't the best friend that I hang with all the time, this is the one that just moved back to town.

She came over just now and planned on sitting on my couch for two or three hours. No. I made up something about having to go somewhere and she left, but I can't always do that. I want my quiet time!! !

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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On second thought, nevermind.

Well, instead maybe you could let her know that you need to be someplace. Or have an obligation, etc. I would imagine this would be true anyway. Having a loyal friend is nice, but that's a lot of discretionary time. Alternatively, maybe you could introduce her to some other people.