I hate parents

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I am sick of using this forum only as a mental health feedback clinic without any real good posting. My parents and especially my mom act overprotective. I don't want to deal with them anymore. Maybe I'll learn to depend on myself more if they actually did. I am 21. I believe that my mom is the main source of me being mentally and emotionally held back in life, and my AS symptoms only contributed in part. Why can't I just have her held accountable for my bad state that I am in? It's not that bad, but she's impairing my decision making, ironically while I am unsure how to make such big decisions. The problem is, I don't know where to begin asking for independence. My mom instilled what I believe are my poor core beliefs about myself and the way my thought process is, not mine.

Get a therapist. Read a self-help book. Stop believing everything your mother tells you. Find information on different coping mechanisms and the like online. There are a number of things you can do to help improve your situation.

I know what you mean. After all of the struggles that I've been through so far, the hardest thing that I have to deal with is my parents and lack thereof..

I'd say to do whatever you can to get away from them first. Get support from people around you until you feel like you are a safe distance away. I found it hardest to live in the same environment as my mom, because no matter how much progress I made, it was all lost when my mom would shoot me down.

Read up on abusive parents, also, because there is a lot of information out there. Therapy's the best way to get information on getting out of your situation, but if that's unavailable, you can always look up info or forums on what kind of abusive your parents are.

They are NOT being abusive by the way.

Do you have a job? Do you live on your own? If the answer is no to both questions, the first step is to get a job, save some money and become financially independent. Then you can get your own place. As long as your parents are supporting you it's going to be tough to establish even a shred of independence. Show them you can take care of yourself. When I turned 18 I moved out of my mom's house, she was upset and tried to maintain control of me, but after about six months she accepted I was an adult and that she must of done a great job raising me (since I was obviously capable of taking care of myself) and she finally just let me live my own life.
Good luck!! You can do it!! Just save up your money...financial independence is the key to freedom...(at least that's my opinion/experience).

Dude... get the f**k away from your parents! My mom is the same way. I went to college 5 hours away from home on purpose. Every time I come home, which is becoming less and less frequently, she still wants to act like I'm 7 years old! I can't really blame her, it's just maternal instinct, but I completely understand, it really does hold you back. The key is not to be around your parents as much as you possibly can... there's a reason we're legally emancipated at age 18.