Did I do the correct thing cutting of ties with my father?

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Recently, I have cut all of my ties with my father, because I found him as a old, cranky attention seeking person who only takes pride in instigating and bothering me.

Over the past few years, my father and I have had a very turbulent relationship, mainly over the fact that I disagreed to apply and enroll in a university in his choice of destination - Thailand.
After disagreeing with him, he reacted by making a huge 18 month issue about it - Told his friends, family members and I think he dragged just to get attention. Furthermore, he has been making extremely snide remarks to perpetually instigate my mother and I.

Also, he is a very habitual liar - He persistently lies all the time; For example, when I had finished my TOEFL test, he said "Oh, the guy over there said that you finished rather early!". I deduced it was a lie because certainly someone wouldn't exchange phone numbers with a person they barely even know.
He most recently told a lie about my grandfather saying that I posted something on my Facebook account that I got into the University of Kentucky, when I actually didn't, and I deduced that it was a lie because my grandfather uses Facebook virtually 24/7 and he should be smart enough to figure it out, and he instigated and proceeded to beat me, from where I cut all ties off with this mentally sick person.

Did I do the correct thing cutting of ties with my dad or did I not?

when you say "beat", do you mean physically? you should stay away from anyone who hits you. if you need his financial support, perhaps he would accept phone conversation as enough of a relationship to continue funding your school.

Sorry Abhma, accepting financial support is not cutting ties. Accepting financial support is a sure way to remain very tightly tied to the supporter. You remain dependent upon him.

I gather from what the OP said, that OP is worried about not having financial support if they follow through with cutting ties. This person is debating on whether cutting ties, thus, rejecting financial support, was the right thing to do.

If he physically attacked you then f**k him. It isn't worth putting up with someone like that no matter what.