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Weiss_Yohji
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27 Jan 2013, 3:15 am

I've been going out and picking up chicks for months and still don't have so much as a single lay to my name!

My peers hooking up with others has only reminded me of still being a virgin and I'm very angry that I'm not getting any action! I need to get some, too! How the hell long does it have to take? I don't want to be patient--I want my shot right f*****g now! f**k waiting! What about me? Why do I keep getting picked over no matter how good my game is? Am I not allowed to have so much as one little one-night stand? Is that too much to ask? What the f**k does it take? Why must every girl I hit on be taken? Six months of going to bars and only one date to show for it? IT'S NOT FAIR! WHY CAN'T I CATCH UP TO MY PEERS FAST ENOUGH? Everyone keeps telling me "You'll find someone someday". That "someday" needs to happen right now! f**k being patient! Patience is a f*****g lie! There is no valid reason why I should have to wait so long! IT NEEDS TO HAPPEN NOW OR I'M GONNA f*****g EXPLODE! OTHER MEN NEED TO PAY FOR HAVING WHAT I NEED! I HAVE TO TAKE THEIR WOMEN! THEY'RE MINE, NOT THEIRS!



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27 Jan 2013, 3:26 am

8O



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27 Jan 2013, 3:32 am

cozysweater wrote:
8O


To be precise, there was one chick I work with who got married right after Christmas, then two friends of mine from high school show up at my work and they're both married. To each other. It makes me resent them so much.

Why the hell don't I get a fair shake? Am I not good enough? Is it because I have AS? I talk a good game; why can't I catch up to these f***s who've left me in the dust? It's not fair they get to be ahead of me! It has to be the other way around! Nobody else can win! Only I must win! THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO HAVE f*****g RELATIONSHIPS AND SEX UNTIL I HAVE IT! I NEED THE INTIMACY LIKE EVERYONE ELSE! IT'S NOT FAIR THAT THEY HAVE IT AND I DON'T! WHY?



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27 Jan 2013, 3:35 am

You are probably having issues because you are the sort of person who resents their friends for finding love instead of being happy for them. I know it's frustrating to feel so alone for so long, but anger is only going to drive people further away from you.



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27 Jan 2013, 7:39 am

You're probably not going to like this, but I think you need to be aware.

You're not entitled to sex, a one night stand or a relationship, at any time, no matter how much you try. Sex is not a reward you get for being "good enough". No, it's not fair.

You also need to stop thinking of women as sexual accomplishments and start relating to them as equal human beings. It is tiresome and very off-putting when a man is only interested in a woman in terms of sex-and this is moreso if you've only just met him. I am autistic and even I can tell if a man is interested in me as a person and when he is interested in my body parts. It is pretty obvious, and it's a very unattractive attitude. If it is just sex you want on your terms and at a time that suits you, pay a prostitute. If you want partnership, you need to stop thinking of women as potential "lays" and start working on forming relationships with them on a personal level. (You can want both these things at the same time). I also think it might be a good idea to make some platonic female friends.



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27 Jan 2013, 8:02 am

fluffypinkyellow wrote:
You're probably not going to like this, but I think you need to be aware.

You're not entitled to sex, a one night stand or a relationship, at any time, no matter how much you try. Sex is not a reward you get for being "good enough". No, it's not fair.



Guys with the OPs attitude are usually delusional enough to think that women somehow "care" about this particular problem. As soon as he realizes their complete indifference to it he'll be a lot better off, and more at peace with himself as well.



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27 Jan 2013, 2:12 pm

I understand this is a rant, but what you're saying is not okay. You are objectifying other human beings because of your own insecurities. As others have stated, women are not prizes to be won, and you are not entitled to anything. Perhaps work on your outlook in life and you might actually get somewhere.



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27 Jan 2013, 9:02 pm

fluffypinkyellow wrote:
You're probably not going to like this, but I think you need to be aware.

You're not entitled to sex, a one night stand or a relationship, at any time, no matter how much you try. Sex is not a reward you get for being "good enough". No, it's not fair.

You also need to stop thinking of women as sexual accomplishments and start relating to them as equal human beings. It is tiresome and very off-putting when a man is only interested in a woman in terms of sex-and this is moreso if you've only just met him. I am autistic and even I can tell if a man is interested in me as a person and when he is interested in my body parts. It is pretty obvious, and it's a very unattractive attitude. If it is just sex you want on your terms and at a time that suits you, pay a prostitute. If you want partnership, you need to stop thinking of women as potential "lays" and start working on forming relationships with them on a personal level. (You can want both these things at the same time). I also think it might be a good idea to make some platonic female friends.


But I don't want to be shoved in the friend zone!



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27 Jan 2013, 9:04 pm

Weiss_Yohji wrote:
fluffypinkyellow wrote:
You're probably not going to like this, but I think you need to be aware.

You're not entitled to sex, a one night stand or a relationship, at any time, no matter how much you try. Sex is not a reward you get for being "good enough". No, it's not fair.

You also need to stop thinking of women as sexual accomplishments and start relating to them as equal human beings. It is tiresome and very off-putting when a man is only interested in a woman in terms of sex-and this is moreso if you've only just met him. I am autistic and even I can tell if a man is interested in me as a person and when he is interested in my body parts. It is pretty obvious, and it's a very unattractive attitude. If it is just sex you want on your terms and at a time that suits you, pay a prostitute. If you want partnership, you need to stop thinking of women as potential "lays" and start working on forming relationships with them on a personal level. (You can want both these things at the same time). I also think it might be a good idea to make some platonic female friends.


But I don't want to be shoved in the friend zone!


Just be open about that entitled attitude and no woman will want to be friends with you.


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27 Jan 2013, 9:08 pm

:lmao: :lmao: :lmao:



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27 Jan 2013, 9:08 pm

All I know is how to compete. Patience isn't a word in my vocabulary. It takes too long.



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27 Jan 2013, 9:09 pm

All right, at this point, I'm convinced you're trolling. If you aren't, you are in serious need of a wake-up call.


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27 Jan 2013, 10:30 pm

fluffypinkyellow wrote:
You're probably not going to like this, but I think you need to be aware.

You're not entitled to sex, a one night stand or a relationship, at any time, no matter how much you try. Sex is not a reward you get for being "good enough". No, it's not fair.

You also need to stop thinking of women as sexual accomplishments and start relating to them as equal human beings. It is tiresome and very off-putting when a man is only interested in a woman in terms of sex-and this is moreso if you've only just met him. I am autistic and even I can tell if a man is interested in me as a person and when he is interested in my body parts. It is pretty obvious, and it's a very unattractive attitude. If it is just sex you want on your terms and at a time that suits you, pay a prostitute. If you want partnership, you need to stop thinking of women as potential "lays" and start working on forming relationships with them on a personal level. (You can want both these things at the same time). I also think it might be a good idea to make some platonic female friends.


I've read PUA books and sites, used the advice given, and I'm just so frustrated that I still haven't gotten all the way with a woman, let alone a serious relationship. Every third woman I encounter ends up being taken and won't cheat no matter what boyfriend-destroyers I use.

I mainly feel neglected, unwanted, and left behind. It feels like everyone's hooking up but me. I missed so many rites of passage and need to reclaim my party years. I've gotten out more, I just don't get the concept of patience. It's too hard to wrap my head around. All I know is that "a**holes" get chicks and nice guys don't. Aggression's all I know. Life is always a war for me. Being polite is too forced and unnatural. I've always resented other guys for having girls because they were NT. I've hated my parents for making me AS. I need revenge against these NTs and need these life experiences like everyone else! It's not fair they get to be normal and I don't!



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27 Jan 2013, 10:39 pm

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All I know is that "a**holes" get chicks and nice guys don't.

If that were true, you'd be drowning in them. Can you look past your bitterness for a second and actually read what people have said?


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27 Jan 2013, 10:54 pm

Patience is a virtue.

But you don't get what you want by being virtuous.


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27 Jan 2013, 11:13 pm

Fnord wrote:
Patience is a virtue.

But you don't get what you want by being virtuous.


How in the blue f*****g hell does that even work? It's completely illogical!