My grandma just passed away!

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Well my grandma just passed away and I am starting to feel rather depressed, I wish I could cry but am unable to I wish I was NT just for one day so I can mourn properly but that is impossible. Starting to shut down.

I'm very sorry to hear that. *hugs you tightly*

If you ever need to talk, just PM me.

Sorry for your loss.

~~hugs you from cyber space ~~

maybe you'll be able to cry in the shower? The sound of the water drowns me out so I don't feel shut up inside myself.

sorry for your loss. everyone grieves in his/her own way. don't worry if you don't cry. you will find a way to let time heal you.

I was the same way when both of grandparents that I've lost died. I just felt empty and depressed. I hope you find a way to mourn in your own way.

*hugs*

So sorry.
Sometimes when you can't cry a ritual helps,light a candle,burn incense in memory,leave a food offering out for other beings in the deceased's honor.Or write a goodbye letter and burn it.

I'm so sorry, that's rough to go through. You will mourn, though, it is just a longer process. I think of the shutting down as a bit like the way a really severely injured person may not feel their injuries at first.

As for crying, my best friend was killed in a car accident when I was in high school. I was in shock, but I couldn't cry. I felt like I was under a glass dome. Then, walking to the burial, with hundreds of other people, a kid passing turned to his mother and said "look, Mommy, a parade" - and I couldn't help thinking it was a parade, in Michael's honour, and that he would have found that pretty funny. Which set me off crying.

My point is that, once the right trigger releases it, you'll probably cry.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Don't beat yourself up for not mourning "the right way". There is no right or wrong way to mourn. Everyone has their own way which is right for them. Many NT's have pretty wierd ways to mourn IMO, but if it works for them then that's all that counts. Whatever works for you is what you should do. I'd be willing to lay cash money on the fact that however you mourn, there are others out there who mourn the same way as you.

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I´m sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry for your loss. I wish you the best in dealing with it.

As for the crying thing, don't worry about it. My dad is a NT, and he didn't cry when his father died, or his sister died. Some people are just not cryers. I didn't even feel all that sad when my grandpa passed away, and I will likely feel the same with my grandma. I love them both, but my mind just doesn't get all that sad about loss. If my parents died tomorrow, however, I would probably feel quite sad about it, but I still don't think I would cry.

Sweet Pea hugs

Thanks for the support everyone *hugs* Im sorry Im rather depressed but I need to realise that death is just part of life. I miss her so much and i will miss her for quite some time. I know my sorrow wont be permanent and my grandma wouldnt want me sad forever it just hurts so much inside.

Sorry for your loss.

Don't worry too much about not crying, as everyone grieves differently. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. It's a personal thing that everyone does in their own way.