How to stop hating your parents

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I really hate my parents
The nastiness, bitchiness they had as really got on my nerves
and im not able to get over with it.

My life is not moving forward because of the narcisstic behaviour they
projected over me

Anyone with same issue

Not gonna say I hate my parents, but I definitely don't like my parents. Also have said I hated them several times just out of anger even tho I thought I meant it at the time.

Dad is a non-issue, I don't even remember his face. Seriously no pictures or anything and i've seen him a few times at age 4 and once at age 10. Also talked to him when I was 14.. i'm now 25.

Mom is a total control freak, it is such a destructive pattern she doesn't even realize how badly she messed up her son's life. Ended up calling the cops when it ended up with me bleeding for days due to physical abuse and her throwing my game system out the window. A dispute that happened over something ridiculously petty. When this happened she actually told family members to not let me stay with them.

Wouldn't allow me to take online courses for college, wouldn't let me pick my own college without me getting my own place. I mean, just a nut.

I can relate well to that greensharkbite
It really kills a part of your soul and then life becomes difficult.

Many relatives avoid me because my mom fed them nasty rubbish about me
and she tried poisoning my husband against me.

She is also a control freak doesnt even let me speak she speaks on my behalf.

Yeah, sorry to hear that you went through that. My mom is the same..always speaks up for me. I mean I try to still stay in contact hoping she changes. But thats her personality, I mean "her way is the way". She says she's always correct, I mean she literally says she's always right. She'll always speak up for me, even now and i'm a foot taller than her. She ACTUALLY stole money out of my account to pay her bail when I had her arrested for abuse.

I live in a different state with my girlfriend now and she kept trying to force me to buy a cell phone, with MY money and get a bill in my name because she thought my girlfriend would toss me out into the streets--which is BASICALLY what she herself already did. So in that instance she more tried to poison me against my girlfriend.. which is funny for her to think she has any influence on me.

I one day just seriously walked out of the door and left a note and told her every problem I had with her, she just was asking how could I write these lies/say those hurtful things about her. I mean nothing was insulting, I still said I loved her, I just was done with her. Emotionally I still am done with her. I know she raised me and I think she seriously has something mentally wrong with her, so I forgive her but I know at this point she's not safe/healthy to be around. I feel in danger when I step into my old house.

Anyway sorry anyone actually had to deal with anything like this, parents are supposed to support you not control and hurt you.

Greensharkbite i didnt know that we can sue our parents for abuse
Atleast not here in India but if i get a chance i would definitely sue her

I can totally agree with you that she is not healthy and not of sound mind
to be associated with

Even i have cut off from my mother so as to be safe my life was under constant
threat when i was with her. Also my father was dangerous highly psychotic
thank GOD he is dead now

Well I grew up with both my parents. I felt unloved. I have two siblings, an older and younger brother. They can do no wrong in my parents eyes.

When I was a teen, whenever my father got mad at me, he would throw me against the wall and choke me. My mother would do nothing. When he threatened to kick me out of the house only then did she say something.

Both my parents would belittle me and verbally abuse me, making me feel stupid.

When I got older I ended up going from one bad relationship to another. Where I would be used and / or emotionally abused.

Shortly after I found out I had Asperger's my wife left me and took the kids without my consent.
I now visit them by staying at my parents place as my place is too far from them and my wife left me in so much debt I had to claim bankruptcy.

My parents still belittle me. They can't say one nice thing about me to my face. They forget every detail about me, like my likes and dislikes for food. They've even called me an embarrassment for a son. They're biggest disappointment and the screw up of the family.

I wish I didn't have to see them, but can't afford to visit my children any other way.

My parents make me want to kill myself.

Arcesius - I actually had to read your first couple of lines a few times because I honestly thought I had already replied to the post...since it sounded exactly like my life...sigh

Anyway, I have a brother and sister, they can do no wrong. Mind you, neither has ever done as well as me professionally even though they both have college degrees and I do not. Go figure. I have also been working since I was 14 and neither of them started working until after they were out of college. Go figure.

I now live thousands of miles away and no longer call. It kills me because I have a son who wants to be a part of their life, but the last time I visited I felt so unwelcomed that I was a nervous wreck the entire time I was there. Even my husband who used to cherish them is now seeing the real them and can't deal with it either.

Not sure what to tell you as I understand. It feels horrendous. I am amazed still because their view is "I am the problem", yet my parents have already put me down, beat me, etc...my brother and sister have constantly called me to help them when they needed something from me but have NEVER been there when I needed them the most, ie. when I got divorced the first time, when my son was diagnosed with autism, etc...I just try every day to get them out of my life. I doubt I will be able to 100%, but I have to try. The stress is too much.

Good luck and I am so very sorry.

Parents can be really annoying sometimes, I agree. At a certain age we start developing our own personality, ideas and world perception that may differ significantly from your parents beliefs. But are you familiar with the saying that you never know what you've got till it's gone?

During puberty I found my parents the most annoying creatures in the world. They never shared my opinions and they never understood me. Especially my mother didn't. And she was ALWAYS home taking tabs on me. I couldn't go anywhere without having to clarify where I was going and why and what time I would be back. Seriously!

Then when I moved out for college and had to maintain my own household I discovered that the only reason why I was so annoyed by my mother, was because I actually resembled her so much. Now I miss her a lot when I'm here and when I go home for the weekends or midterm breaks we talk a lot about the most useless crap. I meet a lot of people here who are nice and interesting, but no one actually understands me so well as my mother.

In fact your hatred towards your parents could be a personality clash. Eventually we are so annoyed by them because we see the annoying things we hate about ourselves back in them...

Necro thread?