How I Cope(or attempt to) How Do You Cope?

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So after many many years of being picked on, bullied, lied to, toyed with, totally uncomfortable around most people...

Things I accept about me that I enjoy. Stuff makes me feel happy. A new gold ring, adding books to either of my book collections, etc.
I don't do well going an entire day or even a half of a day without at least one cup of tea. Seeing people that I find attractive, pretty, exotic makes me feel a bit happy sometimes it makes me feel great! I love delicious foods savoury lunch/dinner/supper, gourmet candy and sweet baked foods. Revenge does make me feel better; I haven't had the courage to do anything big.

Things people have blatantly expressed that they dislike about me. These things I like/liked or have basically accepted. Note- If it didn't make me odd or people didn't dislike me for them I'd probably like them all and many I would not have even noticed.
I am analytical, cautious, quiet, picky, honest and I'm technical. I hate being confused. I ask questions if I don't know.. I but they same shirts in different colors over and over again; I do the same with shoes, earrings, etc. I can hear much better than most people, have a very strong sense of smell and I can see pretty well in the dark. According to the amount of calories I eat on a daily basis I should be around 300lbs and I've never even weighed 200lbs.
Note- I drink about 600-700 cups of tea a year, use lemon water one week a month and apparently thinking burns a lot of calories. I have been eating this way for 15 years. I lose weight when I am not stressed and physically active 3-5 days a week. Just in case anyone was wondering.

I'm far from actual happiness and I still have things I need that I lack. Suicide still beckons often and sometimes loudly.

That's enough about me for now. What about you? Write in any format you want. How do you cope or attempt to cope? What are some things you like about yourself? What are some thing you have accepted about yourself?

hiya Mishra
i cope by taking things one day at a time, "Just For Today"-

*Just for today: I will live through this day only. I will not brood about yesterday or obsess about tomorrow. I will not set far-reaching goals or try to overcome all of my problems at once. I know that I can do something for 24 hours that would overhwhelm me if i had to keep it up for a lifetime.
*Just for today: I will be happy. I will not dwell on thoughts that depress me. If my mind fills with clouds, I will chase them away and fill it with sunshine.
*Just for today: I will accept what is. I will face reality. I will correct those things that i can correct and accept those I cannot.
*Just for today: I will improve my mind. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration. I will not be a mental loafer.
*Just for today: I will make a conscious effort to be agreeable. I will be kind and courteous to those who cross my path, and I'll not speak ill of others. I will improve my appearance, speak softly, and not interrupt when someone else is talking.
*Just for today: I will refrain from improving anybody but myself.
*Just for today: I will do something positive to improve my health. If I'm a smoker, I'll quit. If I am overweight, I will eat healthfully - if only *just for today. And not only that, I will get off the couch and take a brisk walk, even if it's only around the block.
*Just for today: I will gather the courage to do what is right and take responsibility for my own actions.

The beauty of "just for today" is that you don't have to do the whole ball of wax, you can start on just one of 'em and work your way up from there. And it is just for today, as tomorrow is just another [to]day.

The key to your happiness should not lie within other people. If it did, you would have no control over yourself. You would end up having to manipulate them in order to satisfy yourself, as if you were a sociopath/histrionic. I cope by having a general disdain for people. Most of them are not very smart. Especially the ones who bully. They use bullying to make themselves feel better, and bring you down to their level. Many people need social skills for their survival. They know deep down that they aren't smart/strong enough to get by, so they create a perceived threat (you) and attempt to get others to help them attack. If they are able to get others to support their cause, they feel better because they have strength in numbers. I know it seems unlikely, but the big bad bully that is causing you problems is just a fragile ego that is seeking validation from others. If they were really superior to you, they wouldn't have time to bully you. They would have much more important matters to deal with. If someone is bothering you, I would keep my distance from them. Don't bother with revenge. Concentrate on building your mind and body to a point where they would look foolish for challenging you. That is the best revenge.