How do I improve my self esteem?

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I have looked up several articles about how to improve my self esteem and I don't find any of them helpful. They all say that I should write down the things that I'm good at. But I can't think of anything... I'm extremely clumsy, I have no actual talents (I suck at everything and am average in some little things but not above average in anything). I can't handle much stress pressure and so I can't take many responsibilities. I also have no leadership and I can't multitask. What am I good at? I am very loyal, but also so insecure that I cannot follow orders immediately because I keep wondering where I should get started. So I keep asking this, but then I am perceived annoying because all the time I spent asking, they could already have done it themselves. I feel very useless for all those reasons.

Most articles focus on people that feel ugly, but I do not feel ugly. I only don't consider looks that important for I've never reached anything purely based on my looks.

Folks use to find out what they are good by playing--you might try different recreational activities until you find something you like.

What activities do you enjoy doing?

Do you have any hobbies?

all those things you mentioned, you're in good company with me for i also can't multitask and am a stress-phobic clutzy in general. glad to have you here
i am neither a follower nor a leader, but at least i can get out of the way. you are not useless, you have your own purpose in life that nobody else can say anything about without being a boob.
as far as talents go, you can find your talents, through trial and error. you are young and you still have much time to learn things. i have all the faith in the world that you will do well in coming years. you just have to get past your fears, get in there and plug away at something until you like to do until you become proficient. it took me 20 years to [finally!] learn how to be a proper audio digital restoration tech, i am sure you can find something that won't take you that long. you can improve your physicality with proper nutrition [avoid white food!] and consistent physical exercise. it is not rocket science, you can become fit and trim and a pleasant reflection in your mirror every day. if you look good you will feel much better. you can also associate with good quality people who are similar to yourself, it might take a while to find a local group of likeminded folk but it can be done, eventually- it took me decades to find my wonderful olympia square pegs aspie meetups, but you probably can find something faster than that.

Self esteem, comes from knowing you are good at something and that people appreciate you..

You will not work out what you are good at until you have done it. So try different things, if someone says:" try this you could be good at it" give it a go. Try some volunteering, just try things. Follow your interests!! If there are any clubs etc for your interests join them. Also remember the more you do something , the better you will get at it.

If someone had told me when I was in my early twenties the things I was going do, and do well: I would never have believed them in a million years.

Keep trying, don't give up, everyone has some bad times, but you get over them. And remember to have some fun along the way.

Cheers

If you're attractive you don't need any skills to get by anyway.

Skills and talents must be cultivated and developed, they are rarely natural for anyone. If you feel that there is nothing that you truly excel in, then try to develop skills in an area that interests you. As they say, practice makes perfect. Plus, when you find an activity that you truly enjoy doing and can frequently participate in, it can do wonders to improve your self-image. Having someone to talk to can help also, either a close family member or a therapist.

PS: It's kind of a tough situation to try listing out your good qualities in order to improve self esteem. When you have bad self esteem you can't think of any of your good qualities...that's almost the definition of poor self esteem! Even though they're definitely there, I can assure you .

It takes practice and hard work to get good at things. I would suggest choosing things you would like to be good at or think you could be good at with some practice. Then put time and effort into getting good. = )