Bad Home Life...what to do?

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In October, I dropped out of school due to emotional and mental stress. I went back home to live with my parents. But ever since I have been home, my parents will not leave me alone. They badger me, yell at me, and tell me that I am ruining my life and theirs. I am doing everything I can, enrolling in a local community college and job searching. But I cannot do anything right in my parents' eyes. Two days after school started, my parents are already telling me that I am not doing enough to be my best in school. I feel like their love for me is only conditional. I cannot have a single conversation with my parents without crying, and then getting yelled at for crying. The emotional strain is very great and I am constantly experiencing headaches, stomachaches, crying bouts, and listlessness. I hardly ever leave my room, because it is my only safe place. My only real support is my boyfriend, Vince. I want to get out of my house so bad, but I am tied down my financial issues. I don't have enough money to find a place to live and support myself. If i did leave, I would lose all support from my parents, including tuition and insurance. I would have to quit school, and work, but I can't find a job. I would be off my anxiety and depression medications, which would probably cause me to go manic. I have contemplated suicide so many times during these past few months, and my cutting habit is trying to reappear. I don't know what to do. I can't stay here, but I also can't leave. Someone please help. (P.S. I live in St. Louis, MO)

Sounds like a really toxic situation . Maybe once you find a job it will be easier though, or at least you'll be away from them for longer!

Even though your parents have probably not actually broken any laws, go talk with someone in law enforcement and ask about some kind of shelter. Here where I happen to live, there are at least three places I know about where someone in your situation might be able to go, and there must be something similar for you where you are.

aww cheer up steffy. dwelling on your current problems is just gonna tear you down! im a firm believer in 'so as a man speaks, so is he' wich means you are what you eat. you need to start talking positively, and remember your doing the best you can. thats all you can do, and at the very least if what i say doesnt make sence know that being in a bad place in your mind cant turn out any good

goodluck

Can't Leave, Can't Stay - you have a dilema and you will just continue going in circles - an infinity loop. It can drive anyone to the brink.
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If you think of suicide or cutting as your third option then, that one sucks worst than the first two.
You need more options. Like. do you have an aunt or grandparent you could live with. Trade them cooking, cleaning and eldercare til you get on your feet.
See if a shelter or social services can help with housing, job, and counceling. If the emotional abuse is so bad - get out. You need mental health more than tuition and insurance.
Get a job, go in with roommates on an apartment, get a student loan, scholarship, or grant. Talk to the school counselor about it. Take two classes a semester while you work.
Get yourself an attitude.
You really don't need them, you can do this. And you can come out the other side a stronger person.

the situation is getting much worse. they are threatening to take away my only coping mechanism, my computer. Or rather, my internet. Most of my friends live in other places, including my boyfriend, who lives in Sweden. If i can't get support from them due to the fact that my internet is gone, i don't know what i will do. my parents think that taking away my coping device will make me face the world and become more focused. um, it doesn't work like that. if i don't have that way to cope, i will probably slide into a deep depression again, start cutting again, and basically become emotionally comatose. I don't want that. my parents set up this family counseling for tomorrow morning with a counselor, but i think that the reason they did this is to use a doctor to prove that i am the one at fault here, that they are the victims. that i should just obey them without comment. i hope that this is not the case.