family abuse/bullying

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I am a victim of bullying and terrorism by one specific sister who thinks nothing is wrong with me and that i should be out working a regular job. She calls me every derogatory name in the word arsenal trying to shame me, intimidate me or guilt trip me.

Evven after I have paid into social security for 42 years she is telling me that she is paying for me to sit in front of my computer all day. I am taking her money.

Am I mistaken or is there not a social security trust fund with a bunch of my money in a bag somewhere?

I have heard it is common for family members to think nothing is wrong with people who have mental illness, but keesh, this really rips my soul open as I am extremely fragile in the emotional realm of existence.

So, am I the only humanoid paddling this canoe?

I have some relatives in my family that are like that.

I deal with it by creating distance between myself and them.

I have been there too and theyy expect me to make allowances for all and sundrey. All of my family are allistic supremacists even though some maybe self hating aspies or aspies in denial. Even my mum is touching cloth as far as having a developmental disability is concerned even though she has an untreated psychiatric illness. If anything goes wrong then I was often blamed for something they done which was a habit then and the old excuses that they didn't know about Asperger syndrome or anything just no longer washes with me it is getting old. This sort of issue have had with my family since April 1974. Any Advice I could give is if one is treated in a disrespectful way and accuses you for doing it to see if they behaves that way to allistic people and if not then that is aspiphobic bullying not because of ignorance but arrogance. Another excuse is 'I only got frustrated with you. When the angry insensitive outburst was not last resort but the first. It is quite often members of my family try to make me feel I cannot do any right by them. Mum, sister and brother. The other brother doesn't only because he lives on the other side of London. Some people shouldn't hve kids if they don't truly love them or ever have access to vulnerable people of any kind. Also if ones family really thought you was allistic then you would be treated as neuroprivileged and not experience such degrading treatment. Even seeing my mum is not like a mother/son relationship but like what a social worker has with a service user which is a professional relationship associated with a job and that means maintaining a professional distance. I have been expected to treat my mum rahter like a colleague rather than a parent from April 1974 onwards. Actually all my family are not really close and I wonder why they even bother at all. I also have experienced the lying about me, the running down of my character and people suggest talking therapies. What is the point of taking drugs (ones on prescription) or doing talking therapies when the root causes of emotional problems are around you afterwards it would hamper any psychotherapy and undermine confidence boosting exercises?

Abusive family? Yep. If I wasn't financially dependent on them, I'd never see them again.

Aspiewordsmith, you are right about therapy. It does nothing when u walk out of there right back into the abuse. I've been in therapy for over a decade. You have to stop being wounded before you can heal.