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11 Apr 2013, 9:24 am

I was just diagnosed as an adult with Aspergers. I realize that not everyone is familiar with it. However, I decided to share my diagnoses with my brother. I was not looking for sympathy. I thought that maybe by tell him, it would help him understand my interaction with him when we were growing up. See he has it all going for him and I always had to work at everything. That is beside the point. When I shared it with him. He made light of it. He said, "I'm glad you figured out what was wrong with you. Hey, maybe you can get in arguments with people and yell at them and when they yell back out you, stop them and tell them you have Aspergers. That will make them feel bad. Ha. Ha."

Anyway, I have decided not to bring it up again to him. My wife thinks that is a good idea. She said, "if he cared he would have not responded that way."

What do others do with ignorant people?


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11 Apr 2013, 9:27 am

It is news and it takes time to process. It is not something you can understand over one discussion.



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11 Apr 2013, 9:33 am

black008 wrote:
I was just diagnosed as an adult with Aspergers. I realize that not everyone is familiar with it. However, I decided to share my diagnoses with my brother. I was not looking for sympathy. I thought that maybe by tell him, it would help him understand my interaction with him when we were growing up. See he has it all going for him and I always had to work at everything. That is beside the point. When I shared it with him. He made light of it. He said, "I'm glad you figured out what was wrong with you. Hey, maybe you can get in arguments with people and yell at them and when they yell back out you, stop them and tell them you have Aspergers. That will make them feel bad. Ha. Ha."

Anyway, I have decided not to bring it up again to him. My wife thinks that is a good idea. She said, "if he cared he would have not responded that way."

What do others do with ignorant people? :cry:


Hmm well based on that its hard to tell if he was actually trying to be malicious or if he was just trying to make light of it, out of thinking it was a heavy topic and not sure how to respond. If it bothered you though maybe he's not the person to talk to about it. With ignorant people whether they are doing it on purpose or not I usually just avoid talking to them about whatever it is they're ignorant about especially if it pertains to me....or even if they aren't exactly ignorant and just don't have anything helpful to say I might not bring things up.


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11 Apr 2013, 10:31 am

Fight the urges to punch them in the face!


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11 Apr 2013, 10:46 am

When someone says something that I'm not sure how to take, I laugh. If they were joking, they think i got the joke. If they were trying to insult me, they failed.


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11 Apr 2013, 5:07 pm

Perhaps your brother is not good at expressing himself?
Some people joke and make light when they feel awkward, especially at things they don't understand well.

He is glad that you have a diagnosis, and can get the correct assistance.
He could be referring to feeling bad about times he has yelled back at you.



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11 Apr 2013, 5:08 pm

Double post