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I had a brief run-in with someone at work, and I keep running back to it in my mind wondering how I should handle it next time. This is a forty year old woman here, but she does get off on antagonizing people and it was my turn to be the target last night.
What bothers me is that I lost my temper and raised my voice. She was blocking the entire area of travel purposely, and this has been the second time she's done so. I shouldn't have to be dealing with this childish crap anymore, but it does tend to go with the job. Asking her nicely, but pointedly maybe? I'm just worried that it's going to keep up, and I'm going to completely overreact. I don't handle these issues well.

I tennd to curse such peple out or els if they realy raring to go, fightt them. Thuogh I can se that probaly isn't an option at an (office-poltics?) job. I dont kno much othre ways to handle confrontatin othre than bulding up to violnce, which is oen of reson I stay away from jobs taht wuold require much socilising, so Im not exctly sure waht you cuold be done elsewise othre than ignorin them if they keep going.

Thanks for the response. It's been a very long time since I've dealt with this, and when I was a kid I dealt with things much more aggressively if I couldn't scoot out of a situation. Just have to learn to use my words I guess.

I would go for the "pointed but nice" option if you can.

She wants to get a reaction out of you, so if you stay in control they lose, you win.

And no you shouldn't have to be dealing with cr*p people like this.

You're so nice that I can't imagine somebody being mean to you like that. You also sound very adult and very logical and calm. If I were you' I'd just react to her like you would an older kid or teenager. Don't talk down to her too much but do make sure you answer her in the way she can tell that you are trying to chill her out some. You sound very grown up and calm and like you know what's going on. I'd imagine that even if she doesn't see that she's going overboard and that you are reacting calmly, others will see that in how you react and you'll surely score points for it.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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Sounds like excellent advice. Thanks, everybody.