Everyone calls me creepy

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I was always the outcast in school and people used to give me weird looks all the time though it never really bothered me.

When I went to a psychiatric ward I kind of came out of my shell a bit and people were unsure about me saying stuff like "when he's funny he's really funny but at the rest of the time he's just really weird" so at least I almost made friends there although most just kept their distance and no one bothers messaging me or replying to my messages then forth.

Anyway I met a girl and we really got along, we had a huge number of things in common and she used to actually send me texts saying she was glad she met and she couldn't stop smiling and no longer needed anti-depressants now she'd met me, which was really strange seeing as no one even admitted to liking me before. Unfortunetly her mum stopped her seeing me after the first date and she seemed upset so I asked her what was up, and she said it was personal and got really angry at me for asking personal questions. I didn't really know why the relationship fell apart so quickly but I got emotional too and she didn't like that and she told me to get over it, so I asked her on social networks why she hated me so much and she phoned the police saying I was harassing her although they didn't do anything.

Anyway I left her alone and moved into a new college, and people seemed to like me more (it's a class of all boys, for some reason boys tend to like me more and never say I'm creepy but girls are completely creeped out by me). I got to know a female friend through one of the guys there though and I told her I was feeling down and she felt sympathetic almost so when she asked I told her it was because of my ex and she suggested speaking to her. Since then she ignored my message (I just said "hey") and then blocked me. I asked her on ask.fm why she hated me and she said "Because you're creepin' me out ok bye " and then someone else said "Robin the way you act with women is weird like, she doesn't have to inbox you, you do this with people all the time "

Now I'm just feeling really paranoid that everyone hates me and I'd be better off dead but for some reason whenever I try to kill myself I change my mind at the last second so I am just lying here wanting it to go away and I want my ex back, and I don't understand why these things are happening to me.

Last edited by robo37 on 02 May 2013, 1:46 am, edited 1 time in total.

Reading this actually made me scream, out loud, "BUT WHAT THE [bad word] IS IT?????????" (that's so "creepy", that is)

There is no information in here as to what could be so creepy (and you're no doubt incapable of providing such information since you don't know), but I can tell that I would almost certainly NOT think it's creepy. Ditto for probably at least half the people on Wrong Planet. Probably, at worst, understandable why someone would do it.

'Creepy' can mean pretty much whatever a girl wants it to mean, but it seems to come from a few behaviors more often than not: Staring, standing/sitting too close, and too much focus/attention on a girl. Trouble is, these are all things we do without any malice or intention, but it comes across as stalkerish. Unfortunately I think you're going to have to write this girl off, there's usually no coming back after you're given the 'C' title. Just keep those three things in mind any time you talk to a girl you don't know too well, or even one you do know well, and you should be fine.

I take comfort in the fact that -
1. We are creepy
2. We are lonely
3. We are awkward
4. We say the wrong things
5. We do the wrong things
-and it's all because of Asperger's. To attempt to change that would be like trying to changing your race.

Don't worry. People look at me as if I just fell out of the Martian Mothership. Ignore it.

I realized some time ago that its pointless trying to chase after explanations from people, it can just make things worse. Find the people that don't judge you and don't waste your time with those people that call you "creepy".

Creepy to me is someone who continuously contacts you after you've told them to stop. An explanation isn't needed. Someone telling you to stop means STOP!

This coming from someone who just threatened to call the cops the other day because my ex put his cousin up to calling me at seven in the morning on Saturday.

This is something we may never have the answers to.

Myself, I get called creepy for minding my own business.

People are just morons.

Agreed 100% Oversensitive about themselves, UNDERsensitive regarding anyone else... selfish, selfish, selfish.

There are some good ones out there, fortunately...

I don't consider what Aspies do as creepy. Creepy to me means when someone purposely does something strange to weird people out. Its a form of intimidation I think. or something similiar.

Unfortunately many people do not understand Aspie behavior, and either mis-read their different behavior as creepy, or they purposely call you names because they are shallow and don't like people who are different.

Its best to take it slow with people therefore and let them get to know you well before you move towards a relationship.

As a general rule, when the other person breaks a relationship off, it is useless for you to try and revive it, and doing so usually just drives them further away. Letting go can be hard, but it is what one has to do. Everyone is their own person and has no obligations.

To be honest I think this could be a combo of having poor looks and extreme anxiety.

I'm talking from personal experience in my life back when I was younger.

There are some good ones, but very few, IMO. A lot of people on WP are pretty decent, though.

Sweet Pea hugs