I F***ING HATE MY BROTHER!! !

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19 May 2013, 7:09 pm

I'll probably risk getting banned for this, but I'm taking my chances anyway.

I hate that my brother has a huge temper. He gets angry over the smallest things, mainly at my mother. He would yell at her, tell her to eat a d***, and sometimes hit her. If I intervene, I would make it worse. I believe that he got his temper from our biological father, who was very abusive to our mother. When I pointed it out to him, he didn't care. He's already been arrested twice for his temper and is still taking anger management classes. Unfortunately, they are not helping much, as he still gets angry sometimes. No one will let me call the cops, not even my mom, even though she is the victim of most of this.

I am at a loss at what to do. I can't tell any of my friends this, because they can never trust me the same way again. I hate my brother so much, I sometimes wish that he never existed. :cry:

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19 May 2013, 7:14 pm

It sounds like your brother has some hard issues to deal with. If you think you should call the cops than you should. How would you feel if you didn't and your Mom was seriously hurt? Your brother has to take responsibility for his actions. And you shouldn't have to live in fear of him.

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19 May 2013, 7:30 pm

I thought I’d never see you write something like that. I agree with Ann2011.

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19 May 2013, 7:54 pm

Spiderpig wrote:

I thought I’d never see you write something like that. I agree with Ann2011.

I thought that was totally within character :wink:

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19 May 2013, 8:03 pm

Why?

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19 May 2013, 8:14 pm

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I'm sorry this is happening to you.

Perhaps if you film him doing this and when he is calm show it to him so he can see himself? Sometimes it makes a huge difference to see yourself in contrast to 'living it'. Different perspective.

Also, if he is hitting your mom please do call the police. It is for her safety, your safety and his own good.

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19 May 2013, 8:28 pm

I don't want to derail this thread, which I think is important.
Violence is not acceptable. No one should live in fear of violence. Of course, we all do to a certain extent, but some more than others.
I have been violent, but thankfully only towards myself. I know my mother is sometimes afraid of me; I hate that. I wish she knew that I would never hurt her. But the truth is that I have hurt her, by hurting myself.
Violence is just not okay. The OP said that her brother is in anger management . . . I hope he continues with this and perhaps considers medication if he cannot control his angry impulses.

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20 May 2013, 12:19 am

Thats a really bad situation to be in. It would be good if you can try to convince your Mom that it is not good to put up with it and get on the same page as you. It is best if you work together on this. Then maybe get professional advice on how best to deal with it. I wonder if you as family menbers can attend his anger management classes too.

Your brother's anger is unreasonable and his violent actions are illegal. Your anger at it is justified. I really wish you the best and hope your home becomes a safe place again.

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