Breakup blues

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Hi WP, I just got dumped by the sweet NT guy I've been dating since September. It really sucks because it wasn't mutual - his feelings changed to just wanting to be friends. Yeah, part of our issues had to do with AS, but I thought we would last longer despite my social setbacks.

Now I don't know what to do. This was my longest relationship, and it feels odd to think that I have to "start over" and think about the single life again. Sometimes I feel like I'm one of those people who "has" to have a significant other. I do feel lonely without someone to go on dates with and tell me I'm pretty. LOL. But I guess I just have to learn how to cope without this.

What's annoying is that a pattern I've noticed in dating is that it's always me who gets asked out in the first place, and then me who gets dumped. I feel used sometimes. Now I know to be even more careful in who I say "yes" to, but who can predict the future dumping anyway? Not me.

sorry for your loss.

Odd: Usually for me they say that they just want to be friends. This recent one said his "feelings changed" to friendship. I do have male friends and tend to be able to be friends with guys easily, but I think that is a good trait and shouldn't necessarily bar me from romantic relationships. I guess I understand why guys hate the "friendzone" so much.

To be honest, it's gotten a bit better as days go by. I'm focusing on other things like my applications to graduate school, which is exciting for me.

Glad you're doing better!

I am an old codger now compared to most of you I suppose, but I relate. I just want a bit of tolerance and to be accepted as I am but every one expects me to modify behavior to please them. I am not going to transform into a neurotypical. I try to be acceptable but I struggle with the injustice of me being the one who has to make all the changes while everyone else can be artogant, etc. without consequence.