Coping with loneliness - advice?

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So I'm pretty blue right now. My wife finally found work after more than 3 years of job searching
But it is temp work and 600 miles away in Virginia

She's been gone for almost 2 months, and 3 more to go. I never really felt lonely before; I was always comfortable with just my thoughts for company. I am certainly lonely now. It is a new experience for me, and I am having trouble dealing with it. I can't sleep, have trouble forcing myself to eat, can't focus well enough to read anything (also something I have never experienced before), and today I almost didn't get out of bed to go to work. I am pretty sure I have missed my meds a few times, too.

I am unable to talk on the phone other than a few words here and there, and my wife has the same trouble with written communication (text/email/IM). I don't have any friends (except my wife). I don't drink anymore. I gave up pot long long ago. I don't like going out. I used to read in order get my emotions in check, but that doesn't seem to be an option right now.
Does anyone out there have some advice on how to cope with this crippling loneliness and despair?

Another issue I am having:
Right after my wife left, the woman upstairs keeps coming by to ask for things (vinegar, rubbing alcohol, butter, paper towels, etc.). She almost never came by before my wife left, so I am trying to figure out what she wants. Is she just too cheap/lazy to buy these things for herself? Is she trying to check up on me to make sure I'm ok? Is she trying to make friends? Is she trying to pick me up? She's at least 10 years younger than me, so I am guessing it's not some kind of relationship based thing, but I am usually way off-base in terms of social inertaction interpretation.

Sweet Pea hugs

I know you said you hate talking on the phone, and that your wife hates text based comms, but how about Skype video calling? All you need is a microphone, a wbcam and a computer.

When my partner and I were living apart it was the best thing ever. We even watched TV together one night lol.

Might be worth giving a try?

Awesome, glad I could help!

Just remembered something. You'll both want headphones, too. We found that if you tried to use it without them, the volume of the other person speaking would trigger your microphone and it would go very wrong indeed. Cheap ones work fine