I know exactly what would help me

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I've just lashed out angrily at my family because somebody said something that pushed my buttons when I wasn't in the mood anyway, but now that I have calmed down I know why I'm feeling miserable and short-tempered. It's because I feel isolated, feel like I am a victim because everyone else around me are NTs and have more chance of meeting a partner and doing fun things with friends, etc, which has always made me feel terrible about myself. But also I know I have tried a lot of different things in my life like voluntary work, counselling, group sessions, and so on, but still hasn't helped, and I don't wish to go on meds because of fear of side effects and also fear that they might not work.

So I've been thinking that there is one other option that may help, but I don't know if such a scheme exists or not. What I need is a push behind me. I need a young female mentor, who can pass off as my friend to other people but is actually also a mentor who can professionally train me practical social skills and how to have fun. I need to write a list of things what I want to do but feel too shy and unconfident to do on my own, like attending a bar and meeting people there and being included, and then the mentor can dress up and come out to a bar with me one Friday or Saturday night, and kind of be there to push me into doing things, like maybe introducing me to people and keep up making conversation with me and never leaving me standing in a corner feeling shy, without forcing me to drink alcohol. I think most of my isolation issues are caused by shyness, and so if I had professional encouragement, I may be able to get myself to mix more and not feel so socially phobic of people. Then after a few different experiences with the mentor, I may be able to gain more confidence and go from there, then I might be more accepted at work by the other young people and be invited to come out to bars with them and not feeling like a fish out of water.

That's what I need. Does anyone else here need that as well, if you're the same type of Aspie as me who desires social relationships but fail to achieve it because of shyness?

Currently I don't have one, but through the life I have had a few female "best friends" who introduced me to most of the other people I knew...

I think it sounds like a good idea.

I'd help you out but I'm totally unqualified in every way.