Almost had a meltdown today.

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This started a few months ago. The money-grubbing parasite (that I made a post regarding about a month ago) wanted a road trip to Portland with me. I really did not have the money to put in my share, but she kept on bitching and moaning about how badly she wanted me to go with her. I eventually caved in to her nonstop pressure.

This trip was going to take place this Saturday. A couple of days ago, I called her and told her I really could not afford what she wanted me to come up with financially for the trip, but she applied the pressure again and she started crying, so I caved in again.

Today, she called me at work, asking me how much money I was able to get from my payee for this weekend. I almost snapped. I turned to my boss, and I told my boss that I was ready to have an emotional meltdown. My boss responded by telling me to call the money-grubbing b***h and tell her that I was not going on the road trip with her. I did that, and I told the c**t that the only reason I said "yes" to begin with was because she was putting on the pressure and taking advantage of me. She started crying, saying she was "disappointed in me", saying that I was a "selfish person for not thinking of her needs".

I'm not going on that road trip, though. I feel kinda bad for backing out of something I said I was going to do, but this needed to be done to keep me from having a complete emotional meltdown.

It sounds like pure emotional blackmail. I wouldn't feel bad as long as you were straightforward with her.

Aspies have a tendency to end relationships with people too quickly but you seem to suffer from the opposite. I think it's time you said 'no' to this person, once and for good.

I would add that even though the end can be brought about by us Aspies as sudden, sometimes we also draw things out for a very long time before the sudden end.

At first, I felt bad by the manipulative tirade she forced into my ears before she angrily hung up on me.

Now, I am starting to realize that this could be the start of a liberation from her unreasonable ways.

I lost count of how many times she insisted on going to the store with me, just so she could beg me to put stuff that I was buying for myself back on the shelf so that I could get some things for her. I lost count of how many times she demanded I dropped everything I was doing just so I could buy her a Diet Coke, because she was "literally dying without it" and because "it could not wait until tomorrow". I lost count of how many times she used emotional manipulation to take advantage of me and my thin wallet.

I always was resentful over all of this. But in telling her "no" yesterday, a lot of that resentment is starting to go away. I made an important step. She is used to having an autistic person that she could take advantage of financially. Now she has to learn that is not going to happen anymore. She is going to be pissed, she is going to pretend to be hurt. If it breaks her heart, so be it. I have to look out for my own interests if I am going to be of any use to people who actually want my help.

A part of me wants to say that I can't break her heart because she does not have a heart to break, but that would just be vindictive.