Guy calling me up

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I am a middle aged married women

I attend a depression support group.
There is a guy in his 20's who is severally bipolar
and i guess lil bit schizo also.

I am the only girl in the group attending regularly.

He saw my phone number on watsapp page of this group
and started calling me up.

i found it strange and i felt he was trying to lure me
into a sexual trap.

As he often says during the discussion that he is lonely,
no girlfriend etc.

Today he called up and was asking me to meet him up at some coffee shop
i said i barely get time

Previously he called he asked me to meet him at some yoga centre.

I dont have friends but ya i am beware of having male friends
usually they have different agenda on the mind.

How should i behave with this guy???

Pls guide

That's a bit creepy. He had no business looking your number up and calling you out of the blue. You've already made it clear t him your not interested in meeting up, and if he persists that is harassment. Tell him straight up to leave you alone as his phone calls are inappropriate. If he doesn't leave you alone, tell your support group manager to speak with him.

Don't talk to him again. Ignore him and report.

sounds like a similar situation here. a blind adult with possible bipolar and other issues took piano lessons for a short time, then quit but continues to call the piano teacher asking questions intended to elicit emotional responses and expressions of concern from the teacher. Do you have caller ID or call screening? Disassociate. politely tell him that you feel the calls are inappropriate and then screen your calls

i dont mind if he just wants to be friend
or just needs someone to help him with life situation
or to talk with
since bipolar people can get very lonely
and depressive

but asking me to meet him outside
seems creepy
since we already meet in a group setting

and i dont find it safe to meet him
since we have met in group only 2 times.

bipolar males often are unable to distinguish between friends and lovers. Their loneliness is more severe than others and their emotional need for companionship often greater (and subject to greater volatility). they misinterpret kindness as consent and continue to pursue closer relationship.

the safest option is to politely but firmly disassociate, especially given your fear of another man wanting affection. mention in the support group at one of the meetings that you are uncomfortable with meeting members outside of the group setting.

Try to find a support group comprised primarily of women. A lone female in the midst of depressed, emotionally unstable men sounds dangerous to me, at best, and disastrous at worst.

This man's depression is not your burden nor penance. Proceed with caution.